Aiming for the PMA of a glow worm....pt 3

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Previous thread: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2411136#Post2411136

Better start a new one before the old one get locked.

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Had a really good night last night at my niece's place. We made sure my dad had a good birthday and kept his mind off the fact that the previous day had been the first anniversary of his long-term partner's passing. Dad got several text messages - including one from my H - with birthday wishes. He even got a few messages via my FB page from his nephew and family in Boston and from one of my sisters.We also Skyped with my youngest nephew who is studying to be a paramedic and is at college in northern Ontario.

My niece had been worried that we might not like the food she prepared, but it was really good. My son isn't a big fan of stews but he whispered to me about getting the recipe for me to try making it myself.

It was a late night and S13 is a bit tired this morning. He asked if he could stay home from school, kept moaning about being stressed but I was the mean mommy this morning and made him go to school. I reminded him that we've got the Christmas market tomoorow, and maybe even skating at the outdoor rink if the weather isn't too cold and said that if he felt stressed or down at school he should think about that and it would cheer him up. He promised that he would .

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Brought over from previous thread:

Yes you should've mentioned that you planned your h's meals and TV viewing before BD, it makes a lot more sense now, lol.

I didn't plan H's TV viewing before anyone points out that was controlling. I would plan my TV viewing around his schedule and his preferences - if he didn't like a show but I did I wouldn't watch it, I'd PVR and watch when he was out.

I'm now realizing just how much of my life was lived to suit H's wants and likes. I wore my hair long because that's what H preferred, I always wore dark colours because that's how he dressed, I would watch or not watch certain TV shows or movies based on his preference, I always cooked the same foods over and over because H was less inclined to try new foods. It took him moving out and me not having him there to give an opinion for me to realize that I wasn't making choices for me, I was making them to suit him. I've changed my hairstyle, as I replace clothes I'm going for lighter, brighter colours and my son and I now have a policy in place that we have to try at least one new recipe a week.

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Yes you are a mean mummy, lol. Only kidding Enjoy your Christmas market tomorrow, we're going to something similar tomorrow My son has just said he wants to go in town in the morning about 11am. He said I deserve a lie in, lol. More likely he wants to go on his games before we go out
Good news about your H texting your dad Looks like he's softening in his old age, lol.

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) My son has just said he wants to go in town in the morning about 11am. He said I deserve a lie in, lol. More likely he wants to go on his games before we go out

Don't we all deserve a lie in LOL . My son has already told me not to get him up too early as he wants a lie in. I won't be getting one - I do the groceries on Saturday mornings and if I can get it done before 9am the store usually has more staff than customers and all the freshly stocked produce, meat and bread hasn't been picked over. Not to mention the lack of queue at the check out. I'm also planning on getting at least one load of laundry done before we go out so I don't have to think about it when I get back - I can just put my feet up then.

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Good for you I did a recreational course on holistic therapies and the tutor threw in some psychology in with the mix One of the things that she said was not to wear black all the time as it can drain you. She always wore bright colours and it does cheer you up in the winter I hardly ever wear black now, apart from black jeans or black trousers.
I know what you mean about pleasing H, I've been more relaxed since he's gone. If he does decide to come back, he'll have to fit with my plans and not the other way around Well it'll be mutual agreement not controlling

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I'll probably be up early anyway. I can't lie in past 9am anymore. I did my shopping today, went to Iceland and I've got them to deliver it. Spent more than I should, but I've bought some Christmas food so that was why it was more I probably won't do another shop for another week anyway as I've got plenty of food in now

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The last time I stayed in bed past 9am was the day after I finished Relay for Life, which started at 7pm on the Friday and finished at 7am on the Saturday. I sneaked in a catnap or two during the day Saturday and slept through to 10 or later that Sunday. As my son had done Relay with me (although he catnapped during the event) he did the same thing as well.

I haven't got any Christmas food in yet - will probably start with tomorrow's shopping.

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I've not done all my food or present shopping yet. I ordered some lego for my nephew online and it's still not turned up! I could've been to the shops and bought it by now, lol.
I'm hoping to get a few more presents tomorrow, then get round to the chore of writing out cards, lol. Knowing my luck the decorator will want to come round early tomorrow, lol. Well he'll just have to get on with it, hehe
I was thinking today of getting a four bird roast instead of a turkey. I want Christmas to be different this year. When I said that to my son, he said "so that's the theme this year - different!", lol.

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Online ordering isn't always all it's cracked up to be. I did all of mine in store. Just have to pick up my son's present for his dad - we're doing that tomorrow while we're in the city - and something for my dad from both my son and I. Most of my cards are already written and posted as the recommended mailing date for guaranteed Christmas delivery for Canada to UK was yesterday. Any cards for here will be hand delivered, but there's not too many of them.

We're still trying to sort out whether my sister is hosting a Christmas dinner or not. I've told her I need to know soon so I can get any food in so I don't have to spend too much time in the grocery store the weekend before Christmas - all the stores are crazy that weekend .