How many still standing?

[iluvme55]

Another update question........how many old timers in here still standing?
Me..... since 2007 and he has remarried the O/W
Still praying and keeping my marriage vows,but am in a more peaceful place.....love the life I have made for myself am dependent on me and the Lord...

And for all you who are just starting your journey it really does get better, you learn how really strong you really are,
Doesnt feel like it at times, but we really are.

Even tho I am a stander I dont like the new man he has become I still stand just for my belief's.
Wonder how many still are standers?

[beatrice]

In answer to your question - about standing.

No I am not standing for my marriage, as it is over, and my xh is in lalaland. I am standing for me, and right now I am not in or looking for another relationship. At this stage in my life, it would not be the right thing for me. But everyone is different.

My bd was October 2005, and my xh still swings in out of the trees to cause grief!! Bless him.

I think we do what is the right thing for us. I have not closed out the idea of another relationship, but mine was a very very long relationship and a very bitter divorce, sadly.

I was simply not ready to have a relationship with anyone else. I have many friends and a loving family, and that feels safer to me than embarking on a new relationship.

I think it makes me sound like a total woose, but a happy and contented little woose!

[RosaLinda]

Bea, you are anything but a woose you are a strong wonderful woman, whose xH cannot totally let go, who desperately wants attention from you, even if it is bad attention. Like a little kid!

I'm not an old timer, ILikeMeNow, my bomb was not until 1/2010; I think H's MLC started some time in 2008. I'm still standing. I truly believe in for better or worse, but think H marrying his OW would be the end of it for me. You are pretty darn amazing!

[iluvme55]

Thanks for answering my question about standing, but like Bea I love the life I have made for myself,and the ex has such a bad dispostion about him now, I don't really like that new person he has become,and I know the old ex is gone that is the one I still miss so very much,but that one is dead.

I still do pray for him for he was someone I loved dearly and I think in some way I always will.Sorry RosaLinda about your husband and what he is putting you thru, I hope and pray that you will see how wonderful you really are for still standing, maybe one day I will change my mind, but for now I AM A STANDER and proud of it...

You never know what God's plans are for us.I do and have GAL and it feels really good, no more crying or feeling hopeless and unworthy of being loved.I have found I am a very strong woman and I will survive without him.....

[LoisB]

“I feel sorry for the man who has never known the bracing thrill of taking a stand and sticking to it fearlessly. Moral courage has rewards that timidity can never imagine. Like a shot of adrenaline, it floods the spirit with vitality”
― Billy Graham

Thought this fit your thread ILM.

[LoisB]

I'm standing today because I don't believe in divorce. I don't believe divorce is the answer. I think divorce is selfish and hurts children unnecessarily.

I may have to face divorce because I don't have a marriage anymore. I will face it if I have to. But, for today, I'm standing for the simple reason that it's the right thing for me today.

If it doesn't work out, so be it. I may have to file as a matter of self-respect. I'm full of anger today at my H's lack of moral fiber and lack of moral courage.

My husband is living with someone else and I find it repugnant that he can make this choice daily--it makes a fool of our marriage, me, our children and our love story.

He's obviously not someone with the moral fiber or courage to make better decisions today. Maybe he won't ever be. I may need to cut that cord for these reasons. But, I'm not doing it today. This is one decision he can't make FOR ME.

Heather