Let's hope he turns up I was thinking he could be stalling taking things with him as he might want to come back home, going on what he's been saying to you.
Well he did turn up, although not as early as he said he would. He spent over an hour fixing some lights he installed in our son's room. By then it bedtime for our son, so H picked out about a dozen of the t-shirts he'd left here and left to catch his bus. Very little conversation as he spent most of the time he was here working in our son's room.
So much for packing up the rest of his stuff. It's going to be over a week now until he's available in the evening to pack. He won't come over during the day as he'd "have to deal with your dad" and he's on late shift next week so isn't available in the evenings. Tomorrow is Halloween and my son is going trick-or-treating with the neighbourhood kids, and Friday/Saturday H spends with OW (not mind-reading, he told me as much) so that rules out the rest of this week.
Maybe you're right TTD. Maybe he is stalling because he's no longer so sure of what he's doing
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I'm with MH on this, I'm starting to get this vibe as well If he would just get over this obstacle with your dad, then I'm sure things would improve
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I really like the thread title btw a lot more positive than the last one and I love the poem
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I really like the thread title btw a lot more positive than the last one and I love the poem
Yep, that's my aim - to become more positive and have fewer bad days. When I was at university the place I worked part-time had the poem posted in the staff lunchroom, along with a cartoon-style picture of a glow worm.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I'm with MH on this, I'm starting to get this vibe as well If he would just get over this obstacle with your dad, then I'm sure things would improve
If I look back I'd say this obstacle with my dad is part of his MLC as it seems to have started around the same time as the rest of his behaviour changes.
He always used to say that my dad was closest thing he's got to a dad - his own rejected him in favour of the GF's son when H was 9 and H has hated his father ever since. He's always said that the only contact he wanted with his father now was to dance on his grave.
It also matches with H's attitude towards his own family - he told them in January that he would never be going back to the UK, not even for his mother's funeral. And up until MIL's health scare, he had even less contact with them over the last year than he used to. He didn't even phone his mum on Mother's Day (UK date or the Canadian one).
I'm guessing that until he comes out of the MLC fog, things are not going to improve on that front. Of course, if I can get myself into a position to be able to get my own place that may help as well.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I agree pud with the lingering stage and the reluctancy to pack his stuff Let's hope he gets over this hurdle that he's got with your dad at the mo. Funny that, my H doesn't like my mum either!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Had a busy day yesterday. We have a potluck and costume competion at the office every Halloween, so a couple of us were kept busy setting up before and cleaning up afterwards. Good job none of us really felt like working either as our phones and internet systems all crashed at the same time and were down for about an hour - and that was after lunch when we were supposed to be working again.
Then got home for a quick dinner before heading out to supervise my son and his 2 younger friends while they went trick or treating. What I didn't know when I volunteered to go along was that the friends had arranged for 3 other friends to also join the group - 6 boys between the ages of 5 and 13 all on a Halloween high (and that was without any treats) . It was a wet, windy night but at least it wasn't cold.
And things get stranger and stranger with H. About 1/2 hour into the trick or treating I get a call from H wanting to know where we were, and we turned around to find him just behind us. Afterwards he came back to the house and helped sort through S13's treat bags. His comment was "it was a choice of putting up with P&G (the couple he's living with) or putting up with you, and you are the better option for many reasons, all good". He was there until around 11 when he left to get his bus. Before leaving he reached out for a hug - and it wasn't a one arm, buddy type hug . He also apologized for just showing up withour prior notice. Of course, he did have to make a b$&chy comment about my dad a couple of times during the evening, but I just let them slide. It's not worth the effort.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
That's really good, it shows that your H is getting closer again It'll be a lovely Christmas if he can come back in time for Christmas. I hope that he renews his relationship with your Dad
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
