this standing is so hard. H has taken off ring. barely sees son 17. dinner once a a week is not ok. getting fed up. getting tired of being nice. have my great kids yes. But who is going to hold me up? feel like I have no choice, no say whatsoever in this D.
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
this is a new thread. last one better to love or be loved. I have been hanging around here a year. Sorry to say, I don't know how to link... My story is the same as so many others. I wish these stupid waw/mlc'ers would see they are not so unique in their behavior! feeling annoyed.
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
People here keep telling me this, and hopefully, it will FINALLY catch on with me...but you only have control over YOU!
You don't have a choice in what your spouse does. You just don't. It sux....horribly...and it is NOT fair. But it's reality.
So, you have control over YOU. How you will react to your spouse and his MLC stupidity...how you will grow and change and become a better you?
MLC stuff is a nightmare...but YOU will be ok! YOU can be strong and courageous. YOU will come out of this a better, stronger person. Believe it! I believe in you!
thanks job! gabby, angela,luckily I have been swamped with school work and now a sick child-strept..so no time for thinking/dealing with the crazy h stuff. I know I will be ok. I know I am made of strong stuff. I know I have a great support network. i am being amicable. have a temporary order in place that just says status quo will remain.he still pays the bills. nothing been split out yet. I haven't pushed a visitation schedule. we agreed to this thru attorneys. didn't go before a judge. saved some money on that one. Next I guess is gathering all his financials. I have 0 financials. Been a stay at home all these 23 years.
I wish our society, the media would bring to light MLC. Its an epidemic!! All the time I would like to say to h, sorry honey but what you are doing is not unique to you. Its a script. divorce my friend is not going to make you any happier. or maybe it will briefly, but at what costs? I am mind reading, but I think that he thinks, the divorce will relieve his guilt from cheating. I know, I know...can't tell them anything!
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
Don't know how this has happened, but it was my A who initiated the temp order. I just emailed h to let him know its been done and is 14 pages long! said we can discuss next week. I am not driving this D. Will not say anything else to h about it. h knows I am busy with school.
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
I asked h to go to a school function for my d's school with me. she goes to a tremendous special ed school. we feel so lucky to have it. this event is a big deal. celebrating 50 years.h agreed to go. h no longer wears his ring. I still do. I know people will be looking.
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
I'm glad your h has agreed to go to the school function. It will mean a lot to your daughter. Please don't worry about the ring situation. A lot of people do not worry about him not wearing his ring. Some people don't wear rings in this day and age.
Keep the focus on you and your family.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hi WBW, I'm checking up on you lol! Gee I'm sorry to hear your H filed. Is he living with OW? How are your kids handling this? I'm glad he's going to your D's school's anniversary function. I hope you guys bond.
I agree with you in wishing there was more publicity given to MLC. Or that it would be recognized as a legitimate mental disorder.�
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
going to watch s17 race this weekend. d16 staying with h. will get to see my family too!.taking some reading and studying with me. it will be a nice break. thank you Linda and job for checking in on me!
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
