Not on the forum much. There are times when I need the forum for the support, sometimes directly from others and sometimes reading about others in the same boat, some succeeding, some not. It's the times where sitch is in my head whether I want it there or not that being on here works it's best magic. Right now I feel it drags my mood down a little. Brings up feelings that I'm currently not experiencing often.
It's my 5th wedding anniversary on Friday. Haven't really thought about it lately. I had Thur and Fri booked off work to make sure I was GALing.
My brother has just got his adopted daughter today. I cancelled my days off so he could spend it with his family. I don't feel like I need it. I will have to see W when I pick up the kids but that doesn't phase me either. I might feel different on Friday, time will tell. I'm quite glad to be feeling this way, it could have been a really hard time for me.
W text me yesterday morning out of the blue. Said to let her know if I want to Skype the kids later which was nice. Also sent a funny pic about parents.
For a brief moment I wondered what her game is. I thought is she warming up? Is she wanting something from me?
Out of my control, keep going.
I have arranged a party for S1's birthday the weekend after his birthday. He loves train at the minute, got him a trainset, another train, train shoes...can't wait!
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
A lot of folks back off the board some when they are making a transition and especially if pulls their mood down. It's okay. But I know I always like to hear how you're doing. It is so good to hear how you have grown and are now able to move forward and have a personal life. And if you should decide to leave us, I hope it will be b/c you are happy & adjusting to your new life.
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My brother has just got his adopted daughter today. I cancelled my days off so he could spend it with his family. I don't feel like I need it. I will have to see W when I pick up the kids but that doesn't phase me either. I might feel different on Friday, time will tell. I'm quite glad to be feeling this way, it could have been a really hard time for me.
Oh I bet there are some excited people around your brother's house! I'm happy to hear the good news they are getting their baby.
As for your anniversary....it is only human to experience some type of feelings about it. But instead of waiting to see "how" or "what" you may feel when the day arrives and allow the emotion to dictate the rest of your day, decide that whatever you may feel that day...you are fine and will continue to be fine. You may experience some occasions, for a while, that you feel sentimental. We all do. Life goes on. With us or without us. You will be just fine, T.
So, when do you get to see the new baby girl? Have you bought her anything yet?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Defiantly take time away from here when you need to. I took a few weeks off and that was huge for me, but it almost gave me anxiety thinking about this place, weird as it has also saved me.
Keep your chin up and good to see you.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
A lot of folks back off the board some when they are making a transition and especially if pulls their mood down. It's okay. But I know I always like to hear how you're doing. It is so good to hear how you have grown and are now able to move forward and have a personal life. And if you should decide to leave us, I hope it will be b/c you are happy & adjusting to your new life.
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My brother has just got his adopted daughter today. I cancelled my days off so he could spend it with his family. I don't feel like I need it. I will have to see W when I pick up the kids but that doesn't phase me either. I might feel different on Friday, time will tell. I'm quite glad to be feeling this way, it could have been a really hard time for me.
Oh I bet there are some excited people around your brother's house! I'm happy to hear the good news they are getting their baby.
As for your anniversary....it is only human to experience some type of feelings about it. But instead of waiting to see "how" or "what" you may feel when the day arrives and allow the emotion to dictate the rest of your day, decide that whatever you may feel that day...you are fine and will continue to be fine. You may experience some occasions, for a while, that you feel sentimental. We all do. Life goes on. With us or without us. You will be just fine, T.
So, when do you get to see the new baby girl? Have you bought her anything yet?
Thanks Sandi.
That makes sense about Friday, I will do that.
They are bring her around Thursday evening. I'm so glad you just asked if I had bought her anything. I had planned to but then forgot about it. Phew!
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
For a brief moment I wondered what her game is. I thought is she warming up? Is she wanting something from me?
Out of my control, keep going.
Excellent! (And ditto what labug said.)
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
For a brief moment I wondered what her game is. I thought is she warming up? Is she wanting something from me?
Out of my control, keep going.
I know you don't quite believe me but, if you look for games, you'll find them.
Focus on you.
I do believe you. It's easy to make up drama that doesn't really exist.
I realized how much I have learned with my interactions with the guy I GAL with when we go out. He tells me all his drama and shows me the texts, it's hard to believe how some people manage to get through the day. I see all the negative positioning/wording, attacking, guilting, passive agressiveness in the messages. Something I never used to be able to see or never really looked for, it's like CSI when they wave the light over the crime seen and it all pops out for me to see now.
I've learned some really cool life skills!
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
Defiantly take time away from here when you need to. I took a few weeks off and that was huge for me, but it almost gave me anxiety thinking about this place, weird as it has also saved me.
Keep your chin up and good to see you.
Thanks jp!
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
