But the thing is, she is leaving me because of what she deems as years of mental abuse. Turns out I thought I didn't have ADHD but that explains all of my bad behavior.
Since she's already filed and is so emotionally wounded and shut down, I don't know if there is anything I can do to help.
We have nice discussions about me living in a nice condo. She's helping me find a place in Burbank and now is even expressing envy that I'll get to live in a nice large condo (bigger than our house).
Everyone in my family, even my parents say that she will not change her mind and I need to move on. But is this typically of what DBing situations are?
I've never hit her but I was emotionally abusive and manipulative and a whole bunch of crap. Now she is so disgusted by me. Contemptuous even.
Once again she reassured me that she is divorcing me. I'm now being kicked out of the house and have to move into my parents' unused condo. How do I DB when I never get to see her and the kids?
I Love My Wife - Don't give up. Keep DBing, keep working on you. Ultimately you can not control what she does and you need to accept that. It's harder than you think. And she has to let you see the kids. That's a given. I would suggest you start interviewing lawyers in case it comes down to that.
Actions speak louder than words. Talk is cheap. So stick to the DB suggestions and that of the vets on this board. I went from my H wanting a D right now, to now he loves me and doesn't want to push anything within a matter of weeks.
Keep your chin up!
Me-49, H-45 M - 4, Together 9 SS-9 Bomb Dropped - 9/12 Separation - 10/12 Reconcile -2/13 Separation - 8/2013 Reconcile - 10/2013 Separation - 12/2013 Reconcile - 2/14 Separate - 5/14 H Filed D - 8/14
Stick to ONE thread...ADD/HD is NO EXCUSE...emotional abuse and manipulation is not a symptom of ADD/HD
You need to get your act together and pull back, yesterday! Let her have some space so she can think and breathe. If you don't it'll push her farther away and confirm that she's doing the right thing.
Formerly Workinprogress H :55 M :over 29 yrs. Together : 33 D : college D : adult BD and left : May 2013 Separated Experimenting/Replay
