Can DBing backfire?

[Preggonomore]

I've been doing all of the suggestions presented here and in the book and so far H is reacting, but I'm not sure if its a good reaction or not. He has been sad and asking questions, but here is my question:

Can DBing backfire? Could he think I'm so indifferent that it pushes him to OW? H is a very needy person that needs reassurance all the time.

[KdogGS]

I'm wondering this too. I'm on day 10 with no contact whatsoever. It's killing me. Can't wait to hear others way in!

Keep up your efforts for now!

[Cadet]

Can DBing backfire? Could he think I'm so indifferent that it pushes him to OW? H is a very needy person that needs reassurance all the time.

I know it seems counterinutive but affair busting works exactly the way you described it.
Pushing him towards the OW is exactly what you want.
It is the only way that he may look within himself to see that the OW is not the answer to his PAIN.

[NoMoreMistakes]

This was probably the weirdest part for me, but after some thought made sense. How can the WAS figure out what they need or if they want to work on the marriage if they have doubts or confusion about OW.

[indigo1]

I am fairly new to this but understand your concerns. My W has admitted to hanging around other men. I have recently cut off contact except regarding D. She actually told me that being around other people is making her miss me more. It seems they need to figure out what they want on their own and there is really nothing you can do to change that. I know how hard this is because I am feeling the pain myself. I have just recently come to terms with this and it is helping me feel better about myself. We only have control over ourselves at this point so why worry about what they are doing.