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So, another new thread started getting to be a pro at this? That can be good or bad I guess as this is number 4. However, with the start of this new thread a much better attitude prevails. Oh the sitch hasn't changed much but, after 5 months you either sink or begin to come up for air and start swimming. I've chose the latter. I honestly dont know how this will turn out when it's all said and done. Yes, the odds are against an R for most. And yes, we all would like to believe our sitch's are different and that there could be a R. What I am starting to understand however, is that anything can happen.


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What I am starting to understand however, is that anything can happen.

YUP that is why it is best to keep EXPECTATIONS = 0

Welcome to your new thread!


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Thanks Cadet, yes zero expectations in these sitchs' seems to be the smart way to go. With no expectations you cant be let down. Should something positive occur it is also important to maintain one's emotions so as to not over act to the moment. I believe this is the correct thinking...


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You are right on 2!

I can see your growth and yes you are swimming now!!!!

Keep on swimming, keep on swimming....<---Dory from Finding Nemo. smile

You are really getting the concepts down and I can even see it in your attitude too. Super.

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I agree with Pud here smile You've definitely got a more positive spin on this DB lark smile Well done you, keep it up smile


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So this morning I receive the following email from my W:

If you have any plans of moving, could you please keep me posted and send me your new address etc.

Thank you


This is as I suspected, on the 1st of October she will have her 90 day residency requirement for filing for D in the state she is in. There is really no other reason for her wanting this info. She knows where I am at currently and word probably filtered back to her from her daughter I had a possible job to where I was planning to move to. Unfortunately someone else was selected over me.

I know, no mindreading but, as she is still not talking with me it only makes sense. I still dont understand the not speaking with me she is maintaining. And even now 5 months later the short emails she sends ocassionally are far and few between. Without mindreading there has got to be a logical reason for the lack of communication from her.

Well anyways, I need an appropriate response to her. I wonder if I should ask her why she needs this info or what...Is this an opportunity to start a long awaited conversation or not. I just dont know...


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Well anyways, I need an appropriate response to her. I wonder if I should ask her why she needs this info or what...Is this an opportunity to start a long awaited conversation or not. I just dont know...



How about....


Sure will


Wondering why, and wanting to have a conversation ???

I'm pretty sure that shoving Bamboo under your fingernails would be less painful....

What are you doing for you today ????

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there has got to be a logical reason for the lack of communication from her.

Yes there is a logical explanation.

She has already told you ILYBINILWU.

If you dont love someone why do you want to talk to them?

There are a few other logical explanations too.

I agree with Mach1 - why do you need to know?


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"She has already told you ILYBINILWU.

If you dont love someone why do you want to talk to them?"


Ok, so I'm trying to understand. Fact is though I never got the ILYBINILWU speech. I never got any speech. I never even got an email explaining anything from her. What I did get was no signs of anything about to happen. This is where it is a struggle. Our sporadic emails say nothing about our sitch and 5 months you would think there would be something to say.

It is all very very strange.......


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