Loneliness

[sgctxok]

Maybe like you, I have dealt with loneliness all my life. All of it.
As a child, with loving parents, who were sometimes distant, sometimes affectionate
Sometime I had friends, sometimes notsomuch


In high school I had the most awesome boyfriend
He ended the relationship and connected with other women, and married someone else
We have remained friends

I connected with the most wonderful friends anyone has ever imagined. And yet, I was lonely, spending most evenings alone.

Sometimes I like that. I'm an 'enneagram 5, if you are into that'....I like music and spending time doing DB online, I'm a scientist,...etc.

But I'm lonely a lot.

I was married 10 years, had 2 girls, had 2 long term relationships before coming to DB. At was jan 2001. I was suuuuuuuuch a hot. Mess. Worse than most of you. Soooo Pathetic.

So I read Db by dumb luck. Joined this site. Then attended kla seminar with some fellow DBers, along with Wintergirl. She is awesome and ridiculously beautiful. If her hub isn't around (we lost touch) he's an IDIOT.

Also met inmyplace---good man. Again lost touch. I love these folks, but I do NOT recommend DB personal connections. The annonimity (sp) is the very best, and it takes so many years to learn this.


I had great early DBers. In those days, Michele herself could post. I was asked to moderate, in the wings of Tia and Jamesjohn. I am not fit to carry their sandals, yet they are seldom available. I have recommended other moderators, and they (like Jackthreebeans) are still better than me. There is no debate about that. Their lives limit their abilities to show here. It's ok, I post in their honor and for the love of Michele, Virginia and all of you.


Yada yada.


Let's get to the skills.


Let's combat loneliness. I think it's at the crux of this nonsense of good times and bad times.



So--- Bring it. What helps you combat loneliness besides Cuervo, Jack,Cabernet etc.


How do you connect?
How do you self-heal?

[LuckyLuke]

People, nature, being outside, exercise, cooking from scratch, work, books, films, meetups, expressing yourself, helping or giving to others, smiling.

[LuckyLuke]

Oh, and EE.

[LuckyLuke]

Novelty. Travel. Doing something that requires physical effort.

Nihilist alternative: give up on people. Put your faith in things and places and emptiness.

A good night's sleep.

Classes in something that interests you.

Museums.

Bring someone dinner.

[JuneReN]

I like to do something I hate. Really. Okay, not hate but don't really enjoy. Makes me grateful for all the other stuff in my life.

[LuckyLuke]

Pets. Walking. Getting breakfast at a diner or similar joint. Clubs. Bridge.

[Breakdown]

Isn't this what GAL is all about? Finding a new hobby or going back to an old, joining clubs and groups, going outside, focusing on your family and friends...