Its been one month since H moved out yesterday he came and got the boys for the weekend. I guess I can't complain that he is spending time with them I'm just surprise that he wants to spend anytime with them now when he was at home he never wanted to do anything with them at all. But as I look back at it I think its because I was around he never wanted to be home when I was at home. I miss having my boys with me its so hard being away from them I don't like this at all.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
Make the most of the me time you've got this weekend. Keep yourself busy so you don't have time to think about your sitch or miss your boys so much that you get stressed out.
Stay strong.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I won't I'm at the drive in again tonight I just couldn't stay in The house by myself so by the time both movies are down I'll be way to tired to think about anything
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
I won't I'm at the drive in again tonight I just couldn't stay in The house by myself so by the time both movies are down I'll be way to tired to think about anything
That sounds like a really good plan. Keep yourself occupied and enjoy yourself.
The last time I went to the drive-in was the night my H moved out and I ended up with a flat battery. Not a night to remember!
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I know how you are feeling. Am w/o my boys tonight and am trying so hard to keep myself busy/ distracted.
My H also started showing more interest in spending time w the boys after he moved out. I guess he could handle them in small doses and wanted to prove to himself that he wasn't completely shutting them out of his life.
Your H relationship w your kids has NOTHING to do w his R with you. The setting has changed so he's trying to alleviate guilt. Very simply.
But, it is GOOD for the kids to have a good R w their dad, so that makes me happy for them.
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
Your H relationship w your kids has NOTHING to do w his R with you. The setting has changed so he's trying to alleviate guilt. Very simply.
But, it is GOOD for the kids to have a good R w their dad, so that makes me happy for them.
LittleGTO is so right. It is good for the kids to have a good R with their dad, however hard it is for us to be without them. My H usually only sees our son for a few hours on a Sunday, and he comes round to the house and they play computer games together (well, H plays, S watches). S13 has complained a few times about the fact that his dad doesn't talk to him much, but I keep encouraging him to see him whenever he can. No matter what happens between H and I, I still my son to have some kind of R with his dad.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
This sounds like what my 13 yr old says too H doesn't really talk to them much he said that its just like when H lived with us H just watches TV or sleeping. They would maybe go out to lunch or dinner then back to his house and not do much. Anyway enough of that I had a good night with my boys we played a board game tonight and of course I lost twice and my 9yr old won twice and my 13 yr old came in 2nd twice anyway we all had fun but now its bed time talk to you all again.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
Kelela, don't push your kids for info on what they do with H. I know it's tough having been there myself, but you and your H are not a family anymore, you're coparenting now. So unless he's doing something harmful, consider his time with the kids to be private and respect their privacy. If the kids come in talking about some movie they saw then that's fine, just don't pump them for info. That kind of stuff will get back to your H (because HE is pumping them for info you can be sure) and the WAS views EVERYTHING negatively.
My W and I have been doing 50-50 custody for a year now. It was still tough for me to see the kids leave at the 1 month mark, but it gets easier as time goes on. Eventually you'll find all kind of "you" stuff to do when you don't have the kids and you'll look forward to having that time to yourself.
