The following was posted on my previous thread from Sandi2. Thought it would be appropriate to carry onto my newest thread...
WALK LIKE A MAN - FRANKIE VALLE
Oh, how you tried to cut me down to size Tellin' dirty lies to my friends But my own father said "Give her up, don't bother The world isn't comin' to an end" (He said)
Walk like a man, talk like a man Walk like a man my son No woman's worth crawlin' on the earth So walk like a man, my son
Bye bye baby, I don't-a mean maybe Gonna get along somehow Soon you'll be cryin' on account of all your lyin' Oh yeah, just look who's laughin' now (I'm gonna)
Walk like a man, fast as I can Walk like a man from you I'll tell the world "forget about it, girl" And walk like a man from you _________________________
First I need to find a way to regain my mojo I used to have. Find a way to deal with the emotional crap. Continue to try and GAL. Anything that will help me walk, talk and be a man again.........Sooner or later I am bound to come across something that will harden me enough to where I stop caring about my WAW.
Okay you need to write down EXACT actions and give yourself a timeline. For example, a goal may be to join a gym and lose 40 pounds in a month. Something concrete.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Thats sounds reasonable to do the writing things down...I have already lost 49 pounds in 4 months...If one lost 40 lbs in one month I'd have to say that person is in trouble. But anyways, yes, I will try to figure out what to put on paper....TY
2old you are starting to sound more positive about your life with your W now. Keep it up and keep us posted Once you're sorted out your goals, write them on here. This will affirm to you what you're going to do and make you stick to the goals
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I'm trying ttd....still working out my goals though. Been 4 days now and haven't heard back from W as she said she would as to filing for D. So that is a puzzle. Wouldnt you think she would just address it with me as she stated she would. Oh, i have learned my lesson no more initiating contact from my end. But since I have stupidly put this out there it would be interesting for her to finally address this. I only bring this up because it is out there now and since I wont be contacting anymore I would at least like to hear whats in her mind(other than a raging storm). 4 months with no discussions about D is not normal from a WAS. Even your H told you he wanted a D. Have not you heard anything yet? That is interesting also ttd if you haven't.
I haven't heard anything yet about the D, I have a feeling that H has not been to the solicitor. He's got to pay for it and he doesn't have much money coming in so I'm thinking he can't afford it. To be honest, I've not really thought much about it, I've got to the stage now that if it happens, it happens! I've got my plan in case it does happen, but I'm not going to dwell on it. I won't be asking him about it, that will be breaking DB/Sandi's rules. You have to keep up with your PMA and you can't if you're thinking negatively all the time. I urge you again to stop worrying about what your W said the last time she emailed you. Your thoughts are still dwelling on the contact that you have with your W. I know it's hard, I've been there. I know it was only a week that I had NC with my H, but at least I didn't contact him first That wasn't a dig btw, believe me I wanted to contact him as you know. You wrote some good advice on my thread. You should read the advice you put on my thread and apply it to your own sitch
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Wouldnt you think she would just address it with me as she stated she would. Oh, i have learned my lesson no more initiating contact from my end. But since I have stupidly put this out there it would be interesting for her to finally address this. I only bring this up because it is out there now and since I wont be contacting anymore I would at least like to hear whats in her mind(other than a raging storm). 4 months with no discussions about D is not normal from a WAS.
In this case, no news is good news. I promise, if you find a way to get around your new resolve and contact her to find out why she hasn't answered....she will give one, and you won't like it. Leave sleeping dogs alone.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Once you're sorted out your goals, write them on here. This will affirm to you what you're going to do and make you stick to the goals