H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Thanks trying I see it's working. Wonder though if it's supposed to open in a new window like it does. Hmmm.. Anyways, hoping Cadet will look at this today as I'm wondering about my W's "fog". In your experience Cadet (or anyones elses for that matter) does the fog appear to get worse as time goes on in our sitch's?. I ask this only b/c D was concerned for her mother. As Cadet says they fit the same pattern in the way they seem to be running on pure adrenalin and something else he said I forgot.It just seems that this fog has been deepening recently and how would one pull themselves from this.
I don't know whether the fog gets worse or better. I would say to your D that if she's concerned about your W then she needs to talk to her mum about it or someone else who is not emotionally involved. You need to explain to your D that what your W is doing now is no concern of yours as she is not with you anymore. I know that sounds harsh, but for the time being that is how you must think. If at a later stage your W's fog does lift then you can start to worry about her.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Hello Cadet, glad to see you comment....So, with everything you see here, my WAW is definately following the same script as most all others going through this? I would like to ask though, if my W is saying things like if u can live a year without someone then you can live the rest of your life without them and who knows what the future holds, this is script for the most part also? My Stepdaughter really senses confusion in what her mother is saying so it is interesting to me what she said to SD. Anyways had a great day GALing with my D at her school prepping her classroom...
Well done for GALing I'm afraid I can't help you with your WAS's personality at the mo as I don't take any notice with what my H is like. All I know is he keeps getting closer and then distancing himself again. I try not to think about him. I hope Cadet or one of the other vets will have more of an idea about what's going on with your W. Cadet, have you got a link that 2old could go to?
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
2old, it is very important that you stop obsessing about every little thing she says or does. All of it sounds like script. The more you think about her the less time you spend on yourself. No one knows what is going on with her other than her not wanting to be M to you any longer. Sorry to be direct. I had a hard time hearing that also but it was true for me. Being honest with myself helped soften the shock of the reality.
I'm not saying that she won't come back or that you won't reconcile. I'm saying stop waiting for her. And continue to post and ask questions. Doing that helped me through this stuff.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
I agree Rick 2old you should carry on now with your own life and stop worrying about your W. She doesn't want to be with you AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME. Things may change, but for now keep working on yourself and be the best that you can be
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I've just tested it for you 