New here and looking for some support. My husband left me for the woman he was having an affair with. Its been a while and throughtout the time we have been apart they have been on and off. I still love him dearly although I don't want to admit it to myself because its so painful. He had treated me quite unfairly since he has been with this woman he asked me to leave the house to give him space and I did but was not allowed back and since have been living with my parents, he kept saying we can stay friends probably to try and get the divorce done amicably, but it hasn't been easy at all. Lately have found out that he is back with the OW and he is in love with her and wants to get things btw us ended asap his way ofcourse. I am trying to follow the advice I am getting from here but have been contemplating going back to the house and if he doesn't like it he can leave instead. I know it will create conflict and not in my favor but I am afraid that since his relationship with the OW seems strong I am fooling myself and holding on to false hope and may end up losing everything in the end. I am deserate for advice and hurting so much right now. How to handle this? Thanks
Consult a lawyer. Rights vary from state-to-state and country-to-country, in some locales once you leave you cannot go back unless the spouse gives permission. In others you can go back whenever you choose.
You mention your H wants to settle things "his" way which is one more reason you should consult a lawyer, to make sure your rights are protected.
Consulting a lawyer for advice doesn't mean you're pushing for divorce or anything, it's just a way of finding out what your rights are. Good luck.
