Its over now... There will be another next time!

[PeterP]

Hi guys!

Such a long time since I posted. I have been reading though! All of your threads. RosaLinda, Nero, mizjjd, uRworthy, Raine and you other great DBers. And of course the comments made by those further along this road.

My now ExW never gave me any clear awnsers that I could understand. It completely destroyed me. But I wanted awnsers and found this site. Now... It all makes sense. The most important lesson I have learned has been that it is not about me. Every relationship has work to do but nothing, nobody deserved this!

Sorry to say that I have given up. And its a good thing! I have given up trying to reach her. Kind of funny now that I think about it... It took a lookg time and alot of conversations with her to finally quit. Guess its human nature to communicate. She doesnt understand herself so why should she even try to understand me!

My only hope is that she can find her way back to herself. She was such a beautiful lady!

God bless!

[Cadet]

Sounds like you are on the right path.

You never would have gotten through to her anyways!

Keep on your journey!

Nice to have you report back.

[uRworthy]

Hi Peter, I remember you.

I am sorry that your m was not restored. I think giving up has such a negative connotation to it, ya know?

You tried real hard, you let her go and you have accepted that this is what is right now.

And yes, trying to understand her when in crisis is like trying to nail jello to a wall.

I hope she does find her way.

And I hope you find happiness and contentment in your life.

[mizjjd]

Hi Pete, nice to meet you.

I am glad to hear you are finding some peace for yourself.

Snodderly is right I am sure (she always is) that you wouldn't be able to reach your W.
But perhaps when enough time has gone by she will heal to the point where she reaches you.
Maybe not in a romantic way, but in a "hey I remember you" kind of way.



Until then take care! (Well, actually, continue taking car after then too lol)

[albamarie]

Hi Pete,

Unclear answers lead to assuming and worrying needlessly most of the time, it's why I had to detach and step aside.

It's so hard when there is nothing you can do, I understand when you say it completely destroyed you, it's awful to be so full of love and understanding to someone who is no longer there.

I glad to hear you say it's a ''good thing'' I am inching my way toward self preservation in hopes of peace.

Thanks for sharing your story...best DM