"Hi In_It Babies! Welcome to the world!" Hi sweetpea yourself! I know you have had sooo much going on but I am selfishly glad to have you back... for as long as you are here. (anticipating crazy twindom keeping you busy!)
Contact with OW. It is what it is. We can't control the aftermath anymore than we could control the awful sitches we found ourselves in to begin with. I think it's great he's trying to be transparent. Good for hubby! If he's not reciprocating, she'll get more aggressive and he'll start to see her in a very new light. Do like you have always done and let OW bring the crazy... your too busy being SuperMom!
Question though... Did H ever write or text a definitive, "No contact, leave me alone" to OW?
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
No, H hasn't ever sent one. It's actually never been discussed. It's one of those things that I've been too afraid to ask about.
I know it should be done & I shouldn't fear the conversation either, but I do. I think about it daily, but don't have the confidence to hear the answer. Still too many "what ifs" wandering around in my head.
Thanks to all for the congratulations! Yes...twins are something else. I could have never imagined.
M 34 H 35 D 7 D 6 M 10 T 14 Pregnant w/ boy/girl twins-due 12/2013 BD 12/15/12
congratulations! babies are always blessings and you got two together!
enjoy every moment and hang in there. the sleep deprivation will end some day!
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
So, I've been thinking... I want to ask my H when he thinks it will be just us working on us without OW in our lives? This will be my way of leading into the no contact conversation.
I'm beginning to realize after reading RTs reply yesterday that I am living in too much fear still. While I feel happy & do believe that my H means it when he says he's home for good, I'm still very afraid. I don't want to be like that forever either. I may have my H, but if I'm always going to be so scared I may never be normal again.
Maybe this is all still so new? Over time maybe things will change?
Happy Monday!
M 34 H 35 D 7 D 6 M 10 T 14 Pregnant w/ boy/girl twins-due 12/2013 BD 12/15/12
