Hello, I'm not one who saved my marriage, so in some ways maybe not the best to give advice. But I am happy and maybe my advice will help.
My only real tip?
Give it everything. Do your very best. I look back and I know there are things I could've done better, but it was my best at the time. Ultimately, if you really try (getting professional help too when you need it), you do not have so many regrets regardless of the outcome.
People who are here are hurting, badly, but you can and will get through.
If you are here, youre trying. it is worth it to try hard. Best of luck to all.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
Forward, I'm glad that you have moved on and have started a new life! You deserve it! You stood for so long and your XH acted like a horses rear-end. I have ZERO SYMPATHY for him! He gets exactly what he deserves and I wish more like him got it too! DBing is a great thing, but there comes a time when its just not healthy. I realize that everyone has to come to that on their own, but I do think we know when its not going to work, I guess it takes some people longer to accept it.