There is my old thread up top. Took a break from here for a bit. Life is crazy. She is nastier and more litigious than ever. I get my house next Friday and this current one closes Aug 1. Then we are out. She bought one 400 yards from mine. She will not agree to contents division so not sure what I will be moving yet. She mainly won't agree because she wants everything and I just want half. She is one angry woman. Well, I am the one who was jerked around and taking for a lot of money, emotion and time. Trying to get my life back but hard when someone is still trying to destroy you. She is sick....I cannot even describe properly the damage she has done and continues to do to the children, the accounts and me professionally. We are $100k in already. Court on the 26th for custody and financial settlement. It will be ugly. Oh, and we found some lies in her financials. Go figure. The hate she has is surreal. She drove it this way.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
Why is she in so much pain? she drove this route. I am the one scrambling to get life back on track after a world of pain and hurt. She just wants to throw more hurt and frustration my way. She is getting what she wants, but wants more...enough isn't enough for her.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
FloydMan, sorry to hear about where you are currently at and the theatrics.
Thoughts and prayers are with you!
Stay strong.
Me-48,W-51 M-22,T-24 S- 18,16,9 Feb-Jul '11 Away from Home, after initial B date Aug-Dec '11 Back at Home on couch Dec '11-now Same bedroom, room mates only Dec '14 W files initial D paperwork
Thanks Semper. Got my new home. Most stuff moved in and lots to do to settle in. One more week and will be there living and outta here. Much smaller but nicer place. Bigger and nicer property too. The girls really love it. ExW gets hers next week. Next Friday.... we go to court. She is still bitter and angry...still don't get that. She seems very disorganized. She goes away this weekend for 3 days and assigned the kids to me. Not sure that is a smart play with court and custody hearing next week, but we'll see. I have also been doing most things for the girls, especially d10. She is acting very close to me and distant from her mother.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
Thinking of you and hoping that it goes better than you expect in court. Why she is acting with such bitterness and anger will probably always be a mystery. She more than likely won't remember any of this if and when she comes around.
Let her go for now. I haven't read your entire story but whatever is causing her spew such venom isn't as important as taking care of yourself and your girls. My hope for you is that you can find peace from all of this soon.
Me:57H:62 M:34T:35 2S,2D (grown nlah) BD:09/2012 visits M ow EA/PA?:10/2012 H moves out 06/2013
"Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace." -Dalai Lama
Well, court went as it should have. She did not get what she wants and kids are 50/50 custody. She also has 40 days to disclose all financials which she was still not forthcoming with and still wanted to make a financial settlement without. She can't do it and has been told 40 days for all docs. She also has to reimburse me for BMW payments for 11 months. She also has to pay back my over contribution to post separation expenses. With all this she will probably owe me about $10-$15k when all equalization is done. I have to pay $420/month child support for now as I make more. This will likely decrease after 6 months. Oh, and I got the dog. I did not hear her, but apparently she said "He can have the effen dog." Shows how much he would have been looked after. She has been so nasty. Our old house changes hands tomorrow and only a couple scraps of things to get tonight. She has been taking many things that are one and had to let it go. However, she has taken the expensive drapery which is supposed to be left there for the new owners as part of the sale. Somehow comforting to know her issues are not about me. She needs help. Anyway, got the deal that should have been struck back last October. Cost us (kids future money) $60k to get there though. Still financial stuff to settle.
I got my girls though! Woo hoo!
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
I'm glad it's over and now you can begin to live your life to the fullest. It's always difficult when you have to go to court and then deal w/the fallout.
Mlcers don't have a clue when it comes to what it really means when a divorce and settlement takes place. They don't stop to realize that they will never get the entire pie. She's going to be the nasty one for quite a while. I do hope that you get reimbursed, but she may be the type to make you wait for the money. I hope I'm wrong.
Bottom line, you got your girls and the dog! Now, take a deep breath and enjoy the rest of your day.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
