I will start the paper work process and move on with my life
Just wanted to comment on this one!
If this is what you want then by all means go ahead, but do realize that her telling you that she wants D or even her filing doesn’t mean ANYTHING in this. It just a sign that she haven’t changed her mind YET! That’s all! She has been all over the place for weeks!
If you still feel like working towards possible R then do not do anything right now in regards of paperwork. Validate her feelings and leave the work to her! She wants this – she does the work!
Still remember Sandi2s rules and your 180s – continue as if nothing has happened until she comes to you with questions or papers!
The big question is: WHAT DO YOU WANT?
When you have answered this, the next one is WHAT ARE YOU WILLING TO DO TO ACHIEVE THIS?
All the best!! F
Me:44 W:43 D7, D5 (S11 from other R)
T: 8y - not M ILYB: 8. Mar 2013 W moved: 1. Aug 2013 LRT: 20. Aug 2013 _______________________________ Do or do not – there’s no try.
I agree with everything you say fartiltre Don't give up hope yet, even after you D. couples have been known to get back together after they D. Hopefully though it won't reach that stage. I am probably about the same position as you at the moment. My H is due to go to the lawyers any time now to start filing. I don't know when he's going and he never talks about it with me and likewise I don't mention it to him.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Before reading this I had acted a little hastely calling a few attornys just for prices looks like it will cost between $1000 and $5000 to get divorced. So I called to let her know she backed petled a bit and said we should wait a bit. I found that interesting and now she called just to see how the day was and how work was oh and tell me that our 3 year old is acting out and she needs me to chat with him on the phone. What a roller coaster Im on but I will stay firmly planted maybe even further planted then before easier to do when a little bit more bitter after having the D dropped on me.
That's good news Even though she seems to be getting a bit closer, I wouldn't cave just yet. You seem to be doing great and getting the hang of 180. Glad she is chatting to the kids on the phone, that's really good
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Well I haven't posted in awhile I have done some things lately I wish I wouldn't of done hacking her facebook, Email accounts and asking her the question are you seeing someone else IE Gary. I admitted to her about what I had done I cant lie never have been able to And gary she says they are just friends and have been since they were 12 but its just a feeling I get. This last Saturday she was comeing over to pick up our son and Gary was the only ride she could find but she brought her mom also instead of beating him around my yard like a jelouse husband I shook his hand and apologized for never takeing the time to get to know him this really was hard and in a way I felt yes like the bigger man but like I gave a piece of my soul away. but since then I have really backed of she is talking more to me about her day and how our sons day was.
My 180s are going pretty well I have not played a computer game since 6-24-13, and I have lost a little more then 40 pounds walking ,running, working out. I am up for a promotion and interview for it on Thursday nervouse just because with it I will need to move about 2 hours away closer to her and my baby so that's a plus.
I guess the real tougfh sich will be 7-24-13 Its my anniversary not sure how to handle it do I call do I do nothing as if its just another day I am unsure.
I am tryin g to focus on myself my children my faith ,hope, and PATIENCE that's the tough one
My anniversary was 4 days after he left. It passed me by as if it was just another day. I did this by setting up things to do so I wouldn't have to think about our anniversary. I was busy all day and had a meeting to go to at night as well. Funnily enough it was my MIL who reminded me as she sent me some money to spend on myself Well done with your 180s, you're doing well
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Don't give up hope yet, even after you D. couples have been known to get back together after they D. Hopefully though it won't reach that stage. I am probably about the same position as you at the moment. My H is due to go to the lawyers any time now to start filing. I don't know when he's going and he never talks about it with me and likewise I don't mention it to him.