Snodderly, my stress is completely related to finances, my house and basically being jerked around for so long. I released my H emotionally long ago. I don't like who he is. I don't respect him as a man or a father. I am just struggling to regain my footing and find myself again. I want to be able to do that for my boys.
I met with my attorney yesterday and she plans to agree to the last offer that was submitted to my old attorney. She is really surprised that so many good offers weren't accepted. I had a bad feeling about that attorney. I wish I would have followed my gut and made a change. Again, my lack of money has prevented me from taking action in all areas of my life. H has had plenty and the freedom to live in accordance with his latest whim - no kids or sick parent to worry about. I resent that so much.
I feel like such a failure for not being able to live joyfully. I'm trying so hard, but can't seem to pull it together. I can't figure out what's holding me back.
Go easy on yourself This process takes a long time and going through the actual divorce is difficult Maybe try more self care..listen to yourself, trust the process I needed a a lot of time to heal, and a group of supportive women to talk to When you are ready, you will move forward for now embrace where you are and be good to yourself...None of it was your fault and in the end there is a definite rainbow Peace
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Divorce is very difficult, not only because you are splitting up as a "couple", but all of the financial stuff that goes along w/it. It becomes such a business ordeal because you are calling it quits and need to settle up, per se.
My advice is that in the future, listen to your gut. Your gut won't steer you wrong. It sounds like the lawyer you have now is pretty much on the ball.
I can understand why you are stressed with the finances...it's a lot to take in and a lot of money involved. I do hope that you can find some time to unwind this weekend. You need to catch your breath a bit. I'm worried about you. You know how to contact me if you need to talk off line.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
snodderly, thank you so much. You and others here always write just what I need when I feel like I just can't do this another minute. I'm so grateful for your empathy, kindness, compassion and directness. I will be in touch this weekend.
Out of my need for more understanding about MLC (still struggling to wrap my mind around it and stop blaming myself) I started reading Holly06's threads (thank you Bea and Cadet for posting the information and links in Linda's thread!) and came across her post of 6/27/06 which is wonderful and just what I needed.
Here's another really great discussion of MLC started by Holly06. The information has previously been shared by all the vets here, but if you're like me you need to read it over and over to remember what this is really about.
Peace, thank you for your compassionate words. I'm still too hard on myself and keep trying to make this about me. I seem to need constant reminders that, while I can improve on myself, this journey is not about me. Thank you for seeing that and posting what I needed to hear.
GM, I responded to your email last night and it was bounced back as undeliverable and I tried again this morning and the same thing happened. Are you having some problems with internet out your way?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
