In the last 3 weeks, two separate married old classmates have reached out in inappropriate ways to my H, and ofcourse he is loving every minute of it, without any concern about what it has done to me. Facebook [censored]. The first, called at 1:30am after she got out of work and just wanted to catch up. She posts all these inspirational christain sayings on facebook and has started a friendship with my husband. The second just thought it would be fun to start sexting my husband, no harm there right? It started while I was making dinner and he just tried to get in touch with his old buddy...and now he hides his posts and calls. So the match of infactuation as started this fire. It reminds me of when you let the dog get in the garbage..they know it's wrong but for some reason the punishment doesn't outway the reward and they do it every time. Is it really not me? Because after everything we have gone through I really feel like I am broken, that if I was better in some way he wouldn't hurt me. I am afraid, that fear that keeps the fluttering in your stomach and the tears piercing the back of your eyes every hour you are awake. I don't know if I have the strength to fight, nor do I have the propensity to give up. I saved myself and my marriage eight years ago with the techniques and support from this site. What do I do now?
I'll be honest I don't know how i'd handle it either, im so sorry your here again.
I swear the FB thing is one of the most evil things EVER!! People hide behind a screen and wreak havoc without a care in the world, as they never have to face the issues they are creating. I find people like that are miserable and just seeking any outlet they can find to sooth their own miserable existence. /rant off
Im anxious to see how the vets responses steer you in this matter. I wish you luck in making this a 2nd successful save on your marriage. Just wishing you didn't have to be there in the first place.
In the last 3 weeks, two separate married old classmates have reached out in inappropriate ways to my H, and ofcourse he is loving every minute of it, without any concern about what it has done to me.
Let me ask, have you made it clear to him that you find this kind of behavior unacceptable? Do you have clearly defined boundaries with him on this, and defined repercussions if those boundaries are crossed? These are things that should have been discussed back when you reconciled. I'm guessing you didn't, so now would be the time to sit down with him and go over that.
You quit posting in 2006 before you reconciled, it might be helpful to hear how you came back together and what was discussed at that time.
