OW parents called

[peacetoday]

Hi

OW parents called me the other day
WE have had NO contact with XH since he left the state and M OW
about 3 years now

The father said..XH is in a lot of trouble and thought I might want to know??????
Also FIL apologized for the way xh left the kids
He went on to say XH is causing them trouble as well
I gathered his D was still M to XH.. she is probably 31 now.. xh 46
I was shocked
I didn't get much more info b/c I was so freaked out by the call..He had my cell # from an old card XH gave him
I told him I didn't want anything from xh and wished them all the very best and hung up
still thinking about it
glad xh is alive..sorry for his trouble..but Im way past trying to fix his mess
Ive moved on a long time ago
peace

[job]

I am so sorry that you received that call. I don't understand why the OW's parents thought you should know except for the children. It's no longer your worry what happens to him and the OW. It's really a shame what destruction they create as they exit their former lives.

I hope you are doing okay. Yes, you have moved on...

[BklynMom]

I don't think it's strange that they called. They may have just put together all the pieces that her xh had been crazy the whole time. He probably spewed to them about what a b!txh peacetoday is and maybe they called now in some ways to say we now know it was not you.

Thanks for posting your update.

It is good to know that life continues and time is on our side

[BRNR]

Peace today

Interesting "update". I think I would've been as freaked as you. Weird to think that even if our sitches ended in divorce and our Ex's were long gone that something like this could indeed happen.

I think you handled yourself well. I also think that maybe BM is right and they have figured out now, what really happened, and in there own way were making amends with it.

Take care in the new life you have created yourself!

[kml]

Or maybe they were hoping, now that he's in some kind of trouble, that they could palm him back off onto you???

[beatrice]

I tend to subscribe to the 'do you want him back?' But the parents of an OW are probably quite strange people!

[braveheart]

Very weird situation. It sounds to me like your XH committed a very serious crime.

[MaMaMo]

I'm curious as to when this all went down, did you go to them to ask them to talk to their daughter about her dating your husband at the time?

If so and they did the we don't want to get involved, shame on them then because now that he is causing THEM problems they call you his ex.

I don't buy it that just wanted you to know about his troubles I'm sure its now he making trouble for us let's see what his ex might do to help us.

[peacetoday]

Hi
Thank You all for your responses
yes Snodderly..It seems the destruction continues in his case
He has not hit the Bottom yet...6 plus years into this
I was surprised the FIL apologized for how XH left kids


BM ,BRNR, KML
I think you guys are right..they are just putting it together
and yes I know for a fact he spewed about me



I got the sense that they were desperate and angry at him..and maybe thought I would still be mad enough and get involved to save them or get him for back support?
But I think you are right Beatrice.. they are a weird bunch so who really knows

Ma Ma
I never spoke to her family ever be4
one time she called me several years ago and I got off phone ..told her we could not talk ,,,ever

XH Mother told me before she died,,her family was addicted to prescriptions
xh /didn't know his mom passed according to XH FIL..they wanted me to tell his mom too where he was,,

I just wanted to hear he was finally getting things together and maybe getting clean and sober again
He had 20plus years of sobriety be4 crises

thanks
Peace