I will try to touch base with all tonight- sorry for the delays but I was having issues with adding the link on my Ipad.
In the meantime;
" You will never be ready for the rest of your life....but it comes anyway"
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
" You will never be ready for the rest of your life....but it comes anyway"
LOL! One of my favorites is "Life is what happens while you're making other plans." I never realized how true that was until after BD, hahaha!
Good, God...^^^THIS!!
Sunday night, my H goes "So C wants me to write a list of 5 things about you that are really special and unique to you. This weekend I see how carefree and in the moment you are. Then I remembered how you were always like that until we had kids" This just got me to thinking that once I "Thought" I needed to be the "responcible" one, I lost that care free part of me. Which I find ironic, since kids are the most in the moment creatures in the world!! Ah....making other plans....
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
Glad your back! Hope your break was positive and restful.
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
Howdy yall........ Ive detached to a point where I realize that my W and MIL are both certifiable flakes.
Its not close to detachment - but im able to see cracks where I once saw only perfection
As written in the "idiots guide to midelife crisis" Its bad enough that they lie but its especially hurtful when they are bad at it and they always are.........
So yesterday my wife and her boytoy flew off to the west coast together for a lovely 12 day trip.
D3 and I will be left alone- its not often that one can say 12 days with a 3 yearold is a vacation- but it will be in my case.
Boytoy and W have been together for 3 months. a few days back They daycare called and said they would need to close the next day due to illness. My W took it immediately as an opportunity to try to introduce D3 to boytoy. She knew it was an important day for me- I couldnt miss work that day- so she just thought it would be perfectly fine if she and the homewrecker picked up D3, took her to the playground and then out to dinner........
She would do this to make it easier on me- then boytoy/homewrecker and W would drop D3 off and head to the airport together.
^&*( YOU! Ill get a babysitter and make this work myself!!!!
I told W my action plan and she blurt out "If you dont want me to spend time with D3 just tell me"......."This has nothing to do with D3 its YOUR problem"
My response " I WANT YOU to spend lots of time with D3. That bond is so important but I have a problem with you introducing a new man in your life that you met 3 months ago"
" I have not stopped or even attempted to dissuade you from living your adventure....but its YOUr adventure....D3 doesnt and shouldnt go along for the ride"
She just kept repeating "if you dont want me to see D3 just tell me"........Scary- almost wanting me to say something.
Anyway,
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
I bought a bike and a toddler bike seat so that D3 and I can cruise the sidewalks and paths of this awesome (but too cold) state I live in.
She LOVES it- I should have done it sooner
W has a crap apartment and she took D3 to see it. In my mind getting the apartment is a sign that maybe there are doubts about her living with OM long term - who knows......."Im not a mind reader"
I weighed in at 202 lbs credit score improving spending too much $$$- I need to create a budget
but my highlight of the last week
My best friends son is a 19YO d2 track runner and he is in ROTC
On monday night I out planked, out pushupd and out sit upd him.
THAT FELT HUGE!!!
on Jan 8 I did 8 "girl pushups" and wanted to die- this morning I did 65 man push ups and 250 bicycles.
Now I need to learn the guitar.............and update my goals
I missed you all
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
She just kept repeating "if you dont want me to see D3 just tell me"........Scary- almost wanting me to say something.
First, Great to see you PM, missed you.
Second, yeah looks like she is baiting for a reaction there... Good job resisting.
I'll check back later, I am a mess right now, you know me
Take care!
And PM, great to see you back, really!
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
Hope your break was positive and restful.