Oh reb, I've been full of questions for myself today. These holidays always get me cause I know H has a long weekend and I fall into thinking about what could have been.
I'm working the weekend and that helps but there's sadness there.
Tomorrow is a new day.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
It's time to make new memories. New life, new stories. New plans, a new grill maybe too. New reciepies, I love jerk seasoning on pork ribs.
The saddness will go away when you tell yourself that there is no going back. Maybe some day but not today or tomorrow. Things will improve when you trully believe that your life, your future will be great, cause it will if you want it to be.
La I sense that you are stuck in the what ifs realm. My feeling is that when you think that way it holds you back.
Happy memorial weekend
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
I'm sorry you are feeling sad, Bug. I want you to know that I understand your sadness and it's ok to feel what you feel.
But it is also important to feel it, recognize it for what it is and then try your best to let it go. Otherwise it weighs you down and saps your energy. And that is energy better spent on you.
Try not to think about what your h may or may not be doing. We cant really know what it going on with them, right? Best not to even try.
Your life can be what you make it, and I know you are on your way to making it a good one.
Thanks uR, yes the sadness will pass, it's a part of life as are all of our emotions, they come, they go. I spent too many years ignoring my feelings and stuffing them which left me depressed and with few real emotions other than anger.
My life is really good but sometimes there's a down day. This just happens to be one of them. You're so kind to look in and offer me your encouragement.
Rick, thanks for your words of encouragement. I'm really not stuck, or don't think I am. Today I am thinking of the what ifs but this has become a very unusual thing for me so I don't worry about it too much when it happens.
I'm not saying I'm in any way finished working on me, I look forward to doing that for the rest of my life.:)
Is anyone familiar with the book The Happiness Trap?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
