I choked up reading your post because it brought back so many memories. Like UR said they will be watching you so you have to be their rock no matter what's going on or how you're feeling.
In my sitch I spent first week just being there for D7 (my S didn't really understand). After a few days when the initial shock wore off we sat down and had a talk about feelings and emotions. I assured her that we would all be ok and made sure she knew she was loved greatly and this had nothing to do with her. I told her it was ok to feel upset, angry, nervous and any other feeling she had. I also made sure she knew she could talk to me about anything. I've also not talked badly about my W (which God knows has been hard at times). She's been amazingly resilient and is doing much better then I thought through it all. She's asked me a lot of questions and I answer her as honestly as I can (I obviously withhold things as well to protect her). It's no doubt tough but just make sure they see you being strong and know you are there for them because you strength will help them through this.
Good luck buddy, you are in my prayers tonight.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
I can't thank you all enough for your support. I have not been on here much this week. It's been kind of crazy here. Both girls have rebounded fairly well. D4 still doesn't really understand. D8 will ask occasional questions. One that really got to me was when she asked if Mom and I would both still come to her birthday parties.
I think I have been doing really well with showing strength to my girls.
We haven't been to counseling yet but I have definitely thought about it.
W moves out on Saturday. I am going to have the girls out of town for the weekend. Sunday night they will stay with her. I expect that to be a rough couple of nights.
W and I have been getting along fairly well this week. We have done more stuff as a family this week than a long time. I guess everyone is feeling kind of sad that this is the last week together. The sadness is not showing however which is good. Just nice times together. Tonight is the last night we will all be together at home. That is very sad to think about.
I am in a much better place now than several months ago. However, it still $ucks and it is still very sad. I still love her more than the world but there comes a time when we have to move on and, I guess, that starts this weekend.
Wish me luck and keep me in your prayers. Thank you all.
M 37 W 36 T22 M14 D8 D4 8/2012 distanced BD 11/2012 (likely wants D. Feelings have changed.) W move out date: June 8th.
G - sounds like you're doing as good as you can in this situation. Keep your head up, especially around the kiddos, and you'll get through this.
Originally Posted By: Grizz
W moves out on Saturday. I am going to have the girls out of town for the weekend. Sunday night they will stay with her. I expect that to be a rough couple of nights.
Do you have plans to keep busy those first couple nights?
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
Me-48,W-51 M-22,T-24 S- 18,16,9 Feb-Jul '11 Away from Home, after initial B date Aug-Dec '11 Back at Home on couch Dec '11-now Same bedroom, room mates only Dec '14 W files initial D paperwork
