Well Guys, I just want to say thank you to all of you in this forum that have helped me through this traumatic experience. This has by far been the most challenging time of my life. I can honestly say I have tried everything within my power to save my marriage but unfortunately I lost this battle. However, I have learned a great deal about myself. Although I still miss my wife and will miss her everyday, I know that she needs her space. She may never come back to me and I completely understand that. But I will continue to work on me GAL just in case the phone rings one day. I pray that she finds the happiness she is looking for whether it is with me or someone else.
So today after work, I go sign the divorce agreement...I hope I can stay strong while doing so..Thank you again everyone. I think it is time to set her free, and if it is meant to be, I will see her again..
Me 33 W 32 Married 10/13/12 WAW Started sleeping in spare room 1/13/13 Divorce filed 2/13/13 Seperated 3/1/13 till ????????? Divorced 5/28/13
so so sorry about today. i am a few weeks from that day too...
cadet told me once to take my love for my W and put it in a box and pack it away on a very high shelf in the closet... perhaps someday i can take it down and open it again.
but perhaps for both you and i, it is time not only to set them free, but ourselves as well?
please plan something to take care of yourself tonight. you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13
sorry to hear, but maybe this will be the beginning...in my thoughts jaytee ((hugs))
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
Thank you everyone for the words of condolences. I have to say that I was very surprised by emotions. I though I would be an emotional wreck after signing the papers but in a sense it was a sigh of relief. Although I still pray she changes her mind. Signing was a sense of closure..I agree this is the beginning. Either the beginning of my new life or the beginning of the start to my new relationship with my wife. I am leaning towards the latter! Lol...she just is not budging. Well I am still going to continue my 180s and LRT...in hopes of the phone ringing so I am ready. But I will not hold up my life waiting anymore. I am going to live to the fullest!! I will still be posting on here helping and receiving help! Hopefully the next time I post I will be saying............"she came back"!!!
Me 33 W 32 Married 10/13/12 WAW Started sleeping in spare room 1/13/13 Divorce filed 2/13/13 Seperated 3/1/13 till ????????? Divorced 5/28/13
Yes I love that statement from cadet and that is what I plan to do!! I have put it away on the highest shelf possible and hopefully it can be reopened one day. And yes it is time to set them free and free ourselves!!! That is the ONLY chance we have at this point!
Me 33 W 32 Married 10/13/12 WAW Started sleeping in spare room 1/13/13 Divorce filed 2/13/13 Seperated 3/1/13 till ????????? Divorced 5/28/13
JT, i am sorry to hear that, I signed my papers on Friday. It's tough but like you said their is closure in having the D final. Now, it's time to just take care of you. I hope you everything goes smoothly for you.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
You are absolutely right, my finalized divorce was on 5/28/13. I was not sure how I was going to feel when this day came. I have to say that my emotions suprised me. It was actually a sense of relief, a litte dissapointment but I can hold my head high knowing that I gave it my very best try to keep our marriage. I am going to continue to work on my flaws, GAL and enjoy my new life. As a man once said on her, I will put my love in a box and throw it on the top shelf of the closet, Hopefully one day I can pull them back out for her. If not, I have realized that my sitch has truely taught me some valuable life lessons. I have and will learn from them to be a better person. A better man, father, friend, son and husband in the future!
Me 33 W 32 Married 10/13/12 WAW Started sleeping in spare room 1/13/13 Divorce filed 2/13/13 Seperated 3/1/13 till ????????? Divorced 5/28/13
