WAW having affair, still living in separate rooms

[kenva]

Got another text from w, which I was expecting , w and s have dinner plans. Well so do I and tomorrow. A buddy called me up to play cards Saturday afternoon so I'm going. W has been real cold to me all week and its been over a week from when I told her that she was in the drivers seat to get me something in writing. She wont even talk to me. I have to bring something up for her to say anything to me. Emotionally and physically I am detached. But it's still hard when she is so cold. We still eat dinner tho together. Anyway, I am looking forward to tonight and tomorrow.

[newman7977]

Kenva,

So tomorrow's good, have a great time with your buddies. Any plans on Sunday?

I can't remember, did your W file? Did you consult a L? If you haven't I think you should just to see and protect yourself. I think most are free in the first consultation. It doesn't mean you're going to file but to me it was helpful to know the process and the ballpark cost.

Newman

[kenva]

Newman. I have plans w our s on Sunday. I did consult w a couple of attorneys but I have not filed. I told w that she is in the driver seat on this. When I left last night they were coming home so I stopped to wave to s and w did a short close to the body wave. When I got in last night at mid night she left the hallway light on again going upstairs to my room but her door was shut as usual. This morning she's a little cold.

[newman7977]

Ok that's good Kenva. You told her she's in a driver seat, IMO don't repeat that again. Just let her be if she's gonna file you can't stop it. If she threat you again that she's gonna file just say do what you have to do.

My last argument with my w about filing she said she will file. That's what I said, and I also said but she doesn't have to we can separate and file when we both have the money but do what you have to do.

Yep the coldness, I know it's hard but try not to pay attention to it. That's what I keep reminding myself too. Focus on your s tomorrow....I've been focusing on my 3. Today I'm taking them out while w goes out with her co-workers, no biggie for me they do this once a month. If we ever to R this is fine she needs to have a life of her own.

Hey card game sounds good tonight man...and few brewski''s with the boys?

Newman

[kenva]

Apparently I am getting the silent treatment. It's been about a week and she won't even acknowledge that I even exist. She relates to me as "him" to our s. She does still text me, like today to tell me that she won't be eating dinner for the next three days. She is drinking this cleansing stuff. I do say bye when I leave in the morning and do hear a bye back. She is like a little child. I did do my thing this weekend. Went out both fri and sat.

[kenva]

WOW. Just got served.

[jp787]

Divorce papers?

[kenva]

Yep. Divorce papers. She also had her attorney spell out what she wants. She wants her cake and eat it too. I am very angry but I am holding myself together. Not even getting emotional. The first and only call I made was to my mother in law who has been my number one supporter. I am going to take a lot of deep breaths over the weekend before I call my attorney on Mon. When I got served she wasn't home, but s saw me get served and asked what that was. I , under my breath said, ask your mother. He and I went out to dinner. When we got home w had the **** to say " hello", which I said hey back. That was it for the night.

[jp787]

Your doing GREAT! Keep breathing and get out of the house and keep yourself busy!
You can do this!

[kenva]

Thanks, but I can do what? Keep DB so w can realize that she is making the biggest mistake of her life which will affect our s as well or ? A part of me sais to fight her on what she wants. She still doesn't know that I know about her friend. Something I can use against her. If it is over I can not let her have her cake and eat it too. I know I will be ok and I will do everything in the world to make my s happy and have this not affect him bad.