I live at my parent's house when I'm not at mine. I'm not sure where my W stays. She avoided the question in the past, so I try not to ask anymore. At any rate, this situation will change after D. I get to keep the house by default because W can't (or doesn't want to) afford it on her income plus potential child support.
We made arrangements to alternate holidays. I get Thanksgiving and Christmas this year. W didn't see the kids on Thanksgiving, but she did call and talk to them for a few minutes. W is also letting me take the kids to Florida for a week after Christmas. I told her she was welcome to come with us. She said that she was afraid that we would have a fight and ruin our vacation. I told her it was up to her.
It is kind of strange some of the things she says. We don't fight now. We've only had a few fights in the last 6 months (generally about custody of the kids). I'm just not sure what she is thinking or where these comments come from.
About a month ago, she said that I hated her, and she didn't know if I could ever forgive her. Obviously, I never said I hated her. I figure that either she must just "feel" it from the way I treat her or she is projecting her emotions onto me. At any rate, I think that it can't hurt to be happier, carefree, and bubbly (especially when she's around).
At any rate, I think I'm starting to figure out how to live life without her a little. I bought the kids some go carts for Christmas. We bought a house with 2 1/2 acres in 2012, and it has been a dream to get go cars. I think it's going to be awesome.
A final note, I read alot more than I write on this board. I especially like the posts of reachinghigher and Patientman. It's nice to see their structured approach. Also, the majority of people who respond really know what they are talking about. This board has been a Godsend in helping me realize that my situation is not entirely unique (I'm not alone). It also helps me understand some behaviors/feelings and anticipate others.
A new development occured yesterday. My W was arguing with me about child care. I finally relented (realizing it was not worth the effort). W wanted to continue to prove her point that she is not trying to take the kids away from me. She said that I was (at some earlier point?) an awesome father and a great husband. I think she still wants to divorce me though. She needs to stew in her own thoughts for a while longer yet.
