My H of 19 y dropped the ILYBININWY Bomb on me 1 month ago. After my initial meltdown I found this forum & the book & was doing 180s & things seemed better. Then he started moving furniture out today & I reverted to begging, crying , pleading - & he was mean & cold. I finally locked myself in my bedroom & gagged myself to stop H & his friend from hearing my sobs. I felt like I made such progress - now disastrous. It was like I was possessed. Has this happened to anyone else? Is there still hope or did I ruin everything?
Me 54 H 53 T 19 M 15 (2nd both), 0 kids, 2 dogs, 1 horse H open heart surg12-12-12 H dropped bomb 3-5-13 H moved to lounge ~3-13-13 H rented house w/friend 4-6-13 H moved out 4-13-13
Yes there is always HOPE as long as you keep that within you.
He will try to destroy your HOPE but the best advice I can give you is to take any LOVE you have for him and put it in a strong box and then put the box up on a high shelf in the back of the closet.
Then you will be able to take the box out and dust it off and open it up down the road.
This is a long road and nothing good is going to happen right now.
