If she loves the game and you can handle it, maybe ask her but make sure her answer does not matter.
Personally, unless she's a serious fan, I'd suggest a buddy so it also does not look as if you are inviting her to one of YOUR things.
what about buying a few tickets to see a live comedian? If she gets offended by too much sexual humor, call ahead and ask the club about it. they'll tell you.
I find that laughing together is a tremendously bonding experience and seeing it live is funnier.
IF not, rent something funny IF you are trying to do things together without it being obvious.
Make sense? Let her learn to feel relaxed around you as a first foundational step...
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AS, I definitely need to remember baby steps. I guess her being nice and not angry is a baby step.
Sailing and 25, I am leaning toward not asking her to go. The tough thing is that the game is during the week and I am not sure if any of my buddies can get off work.
25, laughing together is huge. One of the reasons she loved and liked me was my sense of humor. She thinks it is sexy if you are funny. I am not totally sure how it happened but we lost this recently. Well I say I don't know how it happened but actually I attribute it to the stress of life. Small kids, disliking work, busy schedules, we just lost the fun. This is tough to get back because she sees me in a poor light right now so things that I know she would have thought were funny previously she will not even crack a smile at now.
M 37 W 36 T22 M14 D8 D4 8/2012 distanced BD 11/2012 (likely wants D. Feelings have changed.) W move out date: June 8th.
This is tough to get back because she sees me in a poor light right now so things that I know she would have thought were funny previously she will not even crack a smile at now.
Same for me Grizz. Stuff my W would always LOL at I usually can't get much of a response now. But here and there I am rolling out some new material and if the timing is right getting her to LOL. Kind of taking it as a challenge. Most of the time though she has a more serious demeanor with me but doesn't stop me from trying.
The game - I would take a buddy. It's all about the GAL and hanging with a friend having some beer and dogs is a good thing. Ask a couple people, work is usually not a big thing with my friends if they don't have to pay their way... If that fails I'll go, I love baseball (hopefully you're near Detroit .
Enjoy the baby steps. Being not angry is a good thing. Just take things nice and slow. Enjoy the moments and work on you.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
25, laughing together is huge. One of the reasons she loved and liked me was my sense of humor. She thinks it is sexy if you are funny. I am not totally sure how it happened but we lost this recently. Well I say I don't know how it happened but actually I attribute it to the stress of life. Small kids, disliking work, busy schedules, we just lost the fun. This is tough to get back because she sees me in a poor light right now so things that I know she would have thought were funny previously she will not even crack a smile at now.
It feels the same way with my situation. We use to laugh all the time but she is resisting any effort to be happy in my presents.
Its hard to for her to see us in a different light when they dont want to do any activitys with us. Family fun activitys like going to the farmers market or the sugar camp. Just wholesome fun with the family. It's sad because the kids are missing out on the fun too.
H 37 WAW 32 S 4 (Autistic) S 2 Together 11 years Married 6 Bombshell Dec 1 2012 House sold, flying solo June 1 2013.
The girls were out with family tonight leaving W and I alone. We went out to eat together. It was nice but a little awkward. It is absolutely terrible to say that you feel awkward with someone you have been around for 23 years. Pretty sad actually. The conversation was good. The night went fine.
However, I caught myself thinking that I don't know if I can do this. I don't know if I can continue to put my heart and soul into this not knowing where it is heading. I guess I am just on the roller-coaster and tonight I am on the downslope.
On a brighter note, I am going to the game with a buddy. I didnt even mention to W if she would be interested in going. It will be nice to just get away.
M 37 W 36 T22 M14 D8 D4 8/2012 distanced BD 11/2012 (likely wants D. Feelings have changed.) W move out date: June 8th.
Glad you found a 'date' for the game. It will be a good time and no unneeded tension or awkwardness.
Originally Posted By: Grizz
I caught myself thinking that I don't know if I can do this. I don't know if I can continue to put my heart and soul into this not knowing where it is heading.
I think every one of us has those days. This is hard stuff and it takes everything we have to continue and I respect the hell out of anyone doing this.
Here's a couple things I've been told when I say similar things: •You'll know when you're done and by saying 'you don't know if you can' means you aren't ready to be done yet and you still have steam left in the tank. Tomorrow will be a new day. •It's not the destination but the journey. The journey is the exciting part because no matter where your marital destination takes you, your personal destination will be a greatly improved you. That's something you own that no one can take away. •Man-up followed by someone calling me girl names (in all honesty, that's the one that usually works for me...)
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
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