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[wolverine1997]

Thanks, I think I will give you a call tomorrow.

[wolverine1997]

Must re-evaluate my goals and maybe set up some new ones. Haven't seen a lot of positive responses from wife, but it has only been a few weeks since starting. Need to set more goals, (smaller goals, easier to reach maybe) to improve communication.

[wolverine1997]

Went to counseling today. All in all things went pretty good. Finally got a lot of things off of my chest. Counselor thinks that I have some anger and resentment towards my wife for trying to abandon the marriage after staying with her and trying to help her after the assualt. But he also said that I need to let go of the fear of getting divorced. I can keep working to save the marriage but ultimately I have no control over what she does. He made several of the same points that many of you have made. I actually feel a little better after talking to him. I think that I might continue to go.

[wolverine1997]

Looking to try something different. Have been spending some time with wife but usually while along with kids. She will talk about her job somewhat or a few of her other concerns but is very guarded in conversation. Will not open up into any deep conversation. Things seem to be stagnant now, so I need to develop a few more goals. Have had limited, (very limited) success with current goals. Any suggestions from anyone?