Update: final papers are signed and filed with the court. I actually have moved forward, and I went out of a date actually. I enjoyed it. It was nothing serious. It was just a nice way for two people to share an evening together. XW found out about the date, and she seemed to be a little jealous. I don't say that to be critical of her. I am just a little confused. She brought up R talks, and she said that it was the man's job to pursue a woman, and I haven't done that with her. She said things like she has been holding back waiting for the family she wanted and for me to want her. I just don't know what to do. I would love to be with her; I am just confused, as during the D process, everytime I did pursue (anti-DB I know), she ran away screaming. I could just use some help here. Maybe I should put this in the Divorced forum, but I know this one gets more traffic.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
Good to hear you're moving on and enjoying yourself, sorry to hear about the mixed signals from XW but that's to be expected. My W has an old saying- she doesn't want you but she doesn't want anyone else to have you either. I'd view what she did as spew and not read anything into it regarding reconciliation. That's a silly notion that it's your "job" to pursue her, like you said when you tried it she ran, so now you what, didn't try hard enough? Bottom line is she still wants to blame you. Just keep up with your detachment!
Yeah, I was really confused by the comment. I am not sure if she is blaming me still or not; however, what difference does it make honestly, as the D is final.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
Wow, that was fast. Did you try to hold it off for a while or did you decide it was for the best?
I decided that it was for the best to go ahead and sign the final papers. I live in a relatively small county, so the judge was able to sign papers without too much delay. I don't know where I am at in regards to reconciliation. EW brings up doing things with each other, and I just don't know truly how I feel about that.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
Sorry to hear...also sorry that things are still confusing at this time...seems like she does not know where she stands still.
Sorry have not read your past posts, but wanted to offer my apology...also think she is still trying to place blame on you...seems with those comments she might not still be ready for R
Sorry to hear...also sorry that things are still confusing at this time...seems like she does not know where she stands still.
Sorry have not read your past posts, but wanted to offer my apology...also think she is still trying to place blame on you...seems with those comments she might not still be ready for R
I have no doubt that she still places blame on me. I know that I did bring most of this on myself. I now realize, though, that I am not the only one at fault, and I have value. It was been awhile since I felt like I had value.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
