There's not many on this forum who remember me .. maybe Snodderly and one or two others. I used to post on here a lot back in 2005-2007.
My XH went through an extreme MLC after a 20 year marriage which ended in a divorce that neither of us really wanted. He called me a lot after the divorce, and we often talked about getting back together but somehow that never happened.
Yet he called me on the phone a lot and I would see him driving by my house on occasion. I never gave up hope. I never stopped loving my XH and I never stopped hoping for that miracle that would reconcile us. In the 8 years since the nightmare began, I never met anyone else that could compare to the love that I felt for my XH. I'm not posting this to discourage anyone else, because most people do go on to find new love .. it just never happened for me.
Today I learned that my XH died this morning of a massive heart attack. I don't know why I felt the need to post this information today after so long a time. I guess I used to feel such a connection with the other posters on this board and just needed to close my chapter.
Valeria, I'm so sorry for your loss. Even though you were divorced, it is your loss to bear. But, as you say --- life goes on.
And, I do remember your name, not so much the situation.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Valeria, I'm so sorry to hear your news. You will be in my thoughts.
M36 XH34 M-5 T7 4/11 H confused 5/11 ILYB 6/11 OW discovered 7/11 I move out, OW over 5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file 9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3 3/13 H/OW break up H files 4/13 D 6/18/13
I truly do feel like a widow, but without the condolences from family and friends, so I appreciate your kind words and prayers.
My XH's death has hit me hard. I have gone through a lot in the past few years, including the death of my parents, but nothing has hit me quite this bad.
My ex never remarried after our divorce. He often said that he would never get married again .. unless it was to me. My ex was only 56 years old .. way to young to leave this world.
I truly do feel like a widow, but without the condolences from family and friends, so I appreciate your kind words and prayers.
My XH's death has hit me hard. I have gone through a lot in the past few years, including the death of my parents, but nothing has hit me quite this bad.
My ex never remarried after our divorce. He often said that he would never get married again .. unless it was to me. My ex was only 56 years old .. way to young to leave this world.
So sorry for your loss, being a little older I can truly understand the power of midlife and what it does to our bodies.
It is truly a time of change and many can not survive its tremendous force. The weakest parts of the body are tested and attacked.
I only write this so you can some how find some peace. I am sorry that he could not find his way back home to you.
Please go back to basic DB101 and the stages of grief and take care of yourself. Rejoice the marriage that you had prior to MLC as no one can take that part away from YOU. Then make some small goals to move forward from here.
We are many peoples family and friends here. You are truly a widow now.
Valeria - I remember you well, since I used to post under another name. I think you are a widow, and need to honour your feelings as such.
My xh's MLC has taken a huge toll on his health, and I saw him again recently. He has never expressed a wish to reconcile, but we do get along these days, and I feel a deep affection for him.
I am so sorry for your loss - like you I have never met anyone that I feel I could love like I loved my xh.
My thoughts and prayers are with you, and I am so glad that you came back to this forum. We should never underestimate a severe MLC - it is a very destructive thing, and the horrible behaviour is a symptom of a volcano underneath. We just got caught up in an emotional catastropshe.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sure your ex H is still with you. It sounds like he never loved anyone else in the same way also. Maybe he just didn't know how to begin to fix the damage. Take care of yourself.
M: 29, H: 31 D: 9 S: 8 T: 13 Y M: 9 Y ILYBIDKIILWY 12/09/2012 ~~~~ Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles. ~~~ it Emptys today of its strengths
