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Wh thanks. That's what they told me. S14 shirt was ripped around th


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Hit submit too quick...anyway his shirt was ripped around the neck and the arm of his shirt was gone...makes no sense to me either.u


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I had a great weekend, my 3 good friends came over and cleaned out my flower garden, planted about 100 plants, mulched and it looks fabulous. We also had champagne for breakfast smile. We are doing the same in a few weeks to open my pool lol. Any excuse huh? wink

Today I turned 41 and this was my first birthday without H. I have decided that I will not be a victim but a victor. I'm going to dinner with my kids tonight, I have their love, support but more importantly their respect! I think I already got the better deal.

I keep thinking of the quote "when life gives you lemons". Well I'm just adding water and a wee bit of sugar smile


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Happy birthday Caigy!

I'm glad you are celebrating your day. Our lives don't stop because our H's are checked out.

And there is no doubt you definitely got the better deal. Respect is easy to lose and hard to gain. And respect from our children... Priceless.

Keep making that lemonade smile


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Tomorrow is my oldest child's 18th birthday and I am so proud of the young man he's becoming.

Is it normal to feel angry that H is not here to make sure our boy has a great day?

I think more and more of him in a hateful way, but then I think of the wonderful H and dad he was for 16 years of that boys life and I truly feel bad for him....but we're not even àn afterthought to him anymore.


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Happy belated birthday to you and also happy birthday to your son.

Sure, it's normal to feel anger towards your mlcing spouse when he's not around for special events, etc. I wouldn't allow that anger to fester and raise its ugly head on his birthday. Enjoy the day w/your son and know that he's turned out to be a well rounded and exceptional son.

Just remember, it's his loss and he's the one that has to live w/that memory.

Enjoy your day!


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The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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Hi everyone,

Called my L on Tuesday to make sure we had everything ready for my divorce date may 7th (this tues).
He said H's L was going to court Wednesday to ask for a continuance because his L has a family thing next week and he's not ready for trial? WTH???

I found out today our new date is July 23rd!!! 3 days after our 22nd wedding anniveršary, should I ask him if he wants to go to dinner that night? Lol


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Not updated in awhile as I'm not much of a writer and my H is simply too crazy it almost sounds unbelievable smile

His L went to court a week before D-day to ask for a continuance and it was granted so the new date is now July 23rd.

I spoke to my L yesterday and he informed me that his L fired H!!! Now what?

He still blames me for literally everything but its like water off a ducks back...I'm so used to it now I just expect it.

I hope everyone is well.


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Hi Caigy

Good to hear from you again. smile

Never thought this is where we'd be after 20 some years of marriage... smirk

I hope you have some good things going on for yourself.

Drop in again soon.


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What you stop.
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Quick question...

S18 is going to have his wisdom teeth removed and he will be sedated. Should I ask H to take him and bring him home? We never ask him for anything so this would be different for us. Opinions welcome.


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