Wife wants to separate and is having an affiar

[HELP!!]

So I'm new to this but I have the Divorce Busting and Divorce Remedy books. I need advice like yesterday...

Here is my situation. Around June of this year I finally noticed that my wife was being distant. Looking back I should have noticed long before (wife stopped nagging), when I approached the subject she was snippy and due to our communication break down it went bad and got worse from there. I also did alot of snopping to find out the online affair (which she got very made about) I did all the things that I shouldn't have done, begging. pleading, crying, and up until last week trying to remind her how happy we used to be. Fast forward to today, my wife has been having an online affair with a guy from AZ that she meet on online and it becamephysical last month when she went out there for the weekend. So now my wife wants me to move out. The guidelines she has in place are I pick my daughter up from school on my days off, and can stay through dinner but I have to leave after our daughter goes to bed. She said she doesn't know if she want s to be married anymore and has been unhappy for a long time. When I wasked about if she thouhgt we could work things out, she said she didn't see how things would cahnge to be any different.

So I'm thinking I need to do the 180 once I'm out (which will be this Sunday). But I'm also looking for advise on the matter as well.

Thanks, in advance

[Cadet]

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[JamesH]

I have some advice for you:

Do not leave your home! You are not the one that wants out and you are not the one having the affair!!

[SM34]

I second that. You stay home and in the master bedroom. She can stay in another room or move out.

[GH31]

Do NOT under any circumstances move out of your home.

Avoid this like you would avoid voluntarily slamming your private parts repeatedly in a car door.

Don't do it.

Whatever marital crimes you have committed (and believe me, you will have committed a lot of them) she is banging her OM. Do not allow him to come into your house and bang your Mrs. potentially when you have your kids at home.

She will wail, scream, try and manipulate you, say crap like "we have got no chance now - there was a chance but now there isn't" etc. It's all bull, a storm that will blow over.

You are to calmly tell her that the house is your home and that if she wants out of the marriage then she must be the one to leave.

You will never have seen anger like it.

So what.

You are to remain as steadfast and unmoving as a rocky islet in the middle of a raging sea.

Do NOT move out of your family home.

GH31