I am sorry if I am not doing this right, but I posted this story in the section of "Walk away wife." But was told that I would probably get more responses if I posted it in the newcomer section. At this point I just want to begin to feel a little better. I feel terrible even though I was divorce almost a year ago.
I have been divorced for almost a year now. Without going into a long story. My wife and I were married 10 years with one child who is a little boy who has autism. A little over a year ago my wife said she wanted a divorce. Basically she said that she didn't love me anymore. She began dating other men she met on an online dating service. Our divorce was final in December of 2011, and she got remarried to a man she met online about a month after our divorce was final. Since then I have had little or no contact with her, and rarely see my son even though we have joint legal custody.
Fast forward. I called over to her house to schedule picking up my son for a weekend. Her new husband answered the phone, he began yelling at me saying when he saw me that he was going to kick my a--. I don't know why.
Either way there is absolutely no hope of getting back with my ex-wife, but I would like to start to feel better. I would really like to see my boy as I have joint legal custody and move on with my life and not feel so bad. Thanks.
"Someday we may look back on this and decide that Saving Private Ryan was the one decent thing we were able to pull out of this whole godawful mess."
Frank you would be better off sticking to one thread. Now you say you have joint custody but you hardly see your S and now your XW new husband is threatening you. Have you called your L and told him she is violating the courts order and that you are being threatened?
As far as feeling better are you doing anything to get on with your life? Are you seeing a counselor or taking meds? All of these things will help you feel better. How about dating? There are plenty of books dealing with what you are going through. Now for the big question. Do you still love your XW and want to be with her? If so why?
M 44 W 43 S 23 S 15 INILWY 9/11 Divorce Mediation started 3/13 June 30 the day W is moving out
DS - I am sorry to hear about your situation and that you are struggling so much. I cannot imagine how tough it must be for you to not see your little boy...
You mentioned you had joint legal custody, but what about physical custody? Is that also joint? What is your visitation / custody schedule? You can always enforce that in court if your XW is denying you access to your son. Consult with your lawyer.
I agree with the above - your XW's new H has issues and you should be concerned about how he treats your son...
Keep posting and sharing so you can get support and please talk to your L and get the help you need to deal with this situation. You will start feeling better and more empowered.
Good luck!
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
Her new husband answered the phone, he began yelling at me saying when he saw me that he was going to kick my a--. I don't know why.
Wow, that's messed up. I agree with the others, contact the authorities. I'm not an expert on this but I believe you can have a sheriff accompany you to their house to pick up your S. Check S for injuries, if you're suspicious then get him to a doctor and contact CPS.
So exw remarried one month after the divorce? That M won't last long based on statistics. I would bring her to court. You have a right to seeing your child. If he threatens you again file a police report to have it on file. In fact I would file a report now and have that when you go to court.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
