"I have been thinking of your message about the joint bank account, I cannot stop you from removing anything from that account, short off removing the money myself or closing the account and I will not do that. That money should be left until all our martial assets are agreed upon. If you do move forward filing taxes separate from me, pretend that money is not there, I will do the same. We did agree, in front of the mediator, to use that money to pay lawyer and court fees. If you do remove anything, I would expect you to replace it? Please let me know why you see this differently."
I hope that does not sound controlling. I was reminding her of what she agreed to.
It has been 4 days since I send that message and no response, maybe she doesn't see it differently, (I know I am not suppose to make assumptions though).
I just found out some good new about my job, I would love to share with my wife, (my love), I want to reach out to her, but I know I need to let her be. Would it be such a bad thing to send her flowers.
I just found out some good new about my job, I would love to share with my wife, (my love), I want to reach out to her, but I know I need to let her be. Would it be such a bad thing to send her flowers.
Did she clean out the account or take half of it? If she took more than half (which I would have suggested YOU do if I were your L, and put in a safe place with open viewing for the court to show you just protected it)
if she took it all, that WILL be noted by the court and mediator.
As for sending her flowers, WHY? WHY??
if you got a raise, it'll mean she can get more money and won't feel guilty at all about the money.
OR do you think she'd be more attracted to you now? Like she'd change her mind?
I mean, honestly I don't get your goal with the flowers and your own amnesia of what transpired right before with the bank. And don't remind her that she can take all the money with impunity. That's not correct or accurate anyhow.
It WILL be noted and counted against what she gets later...
"The heart follows where the head leads, when we let it." So get your head on straight and figure out what you want and then follow suit.
You sound so reactive...it's not healthy for you.
take a breath. Also, what are your 180s? And any GAL? We hammer GAL a lot here...b/c we know it works. I would love to hear about what is NEW and fun in YOUR life.
How about putting some focus on that?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
25years, am I reactive yes, and all it does is bring anxiety to me, [censored], I do vent frustration here, and take a step back, I thank all of you for your assistants. Reading these posts does help me.
I have not contacted her since that last message about the money she asked about. She did take half of the money out, exactly right down to the cents, guess she see that as fair. I do understand that all the money issue will come out in the wash. I am just confused about why she DOES NOT she that. If she would have talked to any lawyer they would tell her that. I will leave my half there in the account we agreed, to show that I am a fair person. ( is that a bad idea)
I would to Let her know about my raise, because Times like this is when I really loved my W, she was there to listen, how I wish I could share all the news with her, but I know back of she has moved away from me. Do I think she will be more attracted to me, no. Will it change her mind, I know it won't. Just thought of flowers because it is spring, and I was thinking of her, Posted that here guess because I wanted to be sure it was not a good thing to do.
I did move forward in GAL, 180, really started doing things I like to do, joined a running club. Went out to see music, really had some fun. I started painting. Also joined a Separation group, met some helpful people.
