I chose my title because midlife crisis is really like the Wizard of Oz movie in so many ways.... if only they would realize what they are looking for is in their own backyard....
....and I realize the show they put on is all smoke and mirrors and they are the guy "behind a curtain" just masking the real thing, trying to make themselves look confident and powerful....
No real updates, haven't really seen H, he spoke to me briefly when he got home last night, right before my friend and I left. He just told me he brought some leftover pizza home if I wanted any, I said ok thanks. He also actually answered the door when my friend got there. There are also 2 large trash bags filled with a bunch of his clothes sitting in his room, I saw them this morning... who knows what he's up to... time will tell.... I figure whatever it is, God's got it covered.
I like your new thread title. It is so true...they hide behind the curtain w/masks and you never know which mask they are going to wear to the "Ball". They do not realize just how good they have/had it w/their spouses.
As for the bag of clothes...maybe he's doing some fall housecleaning and has opted to get rid of them. Has he gained or lost weight? Don't be surprised if he comes out wearing clothes that only a teenager or young adult would wear. He may be getting to the stage of changing his clothing tastes and some do get body piercing and tattoos. Oh, let's not forget those who have all of their body hair removed. Not trying to shock you this morning, but he may very well be entering a new phase.
BTW, have you noticed anything missing from any of the rooms? Sometimes they tend to sneak around and pick up items that you don't readily miss until you actually go to use them. He could be squirreling away some items for his "running away from home" time.
I hope that you have a pleasant day and your sense of humor remains intact.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hey Snodderly! Yes, he too has lost a great deal of weight, so maybe he's getting rid of the big stuff, and just stuff he doesn't like anymore. I hope he doesn't throw it away, I hope he will take them to the thrift store.
I'm actually surprised he hasn't gotten a tattoo yet, he's always wanted one, so I won't be surprised if he does that. Also we know he must top my hair cut! LOL
I also did notice he hasn't been texting much at all this last week.... so I think you are right about him being in a new phase possibly.
I haven't noticed anything missing, but will keep watch. I have noticed he put his sunscreen back in the bathroom cabinet. He also has been doing strange stuff with the stuff on the bathroom counter sometimes. I notice the toothbrush holder moved a lot (I think I wrote about this before, and him moving the soap and shaving cream). I definitely think he's testing me, because he will do things that annoy me... like let the plate on the counter instead of actually putting it in the dishwasher, just little things. I never say anything about anything really anymore.
Also about a week ago he had been looking at the living room wall which is covered in pictures and his shooting trophies (well plaques).... I'm guessing he was looking at those but who knows. I know he has others he has won recently, it will be interesting to see if he will hang them up or not....
Definitely stock up on popcorn. It's going to get interesting in the days to come.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks Sunny! It takes lots and lots of work to stay positive... still a crying mess sometimes, but not as often. You'll get there too.
TVS~ LOL glad I'm not the only one picking out the analogies with MLC and OZ! However, I think it's interesting because I think Dorothy's too young for a MLC... just saying...
Here's to hoping they click their heels together and realize there's no place like home!!
news on the home front: Had a surprisingly nice evening with H last night. Actually watched 2 movies together... well the first one I just kinda plopped myself down on the couch while we were eating and hadn't planned on staying for the whole thing, but it caught my attention so I did. He was watching Machine Gun Preacher, actually a good movie, and I kept sitting there thinking, really are you not getting the irony of you watching this movie?!?!
After that movie was over he asked if I wanted the tv, I said no I didn't mean to intrude. He said I wasn't and asked if I wanted to watch something else with him. So we ended up watching Cabin in the Woods (LOVE Chris Hemsworth!!).
I may have used my powers of seduction again.... and he said the line he hasn't said in awhile so I was hoping he was over it, "We shouldn't be doing this." I didn't say anything, I resisted the urge to smack him and say No WE should be doing this we are married!!! So yea me, I resisted saying something that would have sent him into super pissed!
Didn't see him this morning because remember, we spend every week day morning at the gym now. OH! and I just found out from a friend, that zombie run next weekend he was talking about has been canceled.
H seemed ok tonight, I brought up his laundry and left it in the basket sitting in front of his door so he wouldn't get upset if I set foot in "his" room. He thanked me for it (he had actually helped me hang up my laundry last night).
Oh I apparently did NOT get the memo that it is still not ok for me to replace HIS toothbrush when replacing mine. Apparently it is annoying to him, you know, because he's a big boy and can do it himself. *rolling eyes* I told him it's no big deal, they come in 2 packs.
Then I went out to the kitchen and handed him a pocket knife my mom had brought down with her today for him. I told him it was from mom, and he looked like he didn't want it, told me to keep it, asked where it came from. I told him I already have one and I said it's been in their lost and found for many months so they get rid of the stuff after awhile and she knows he likes knives. He did take it, but look annoyed.
Otherwise with him he still has himself thrown into shooting, which is good, he loves it, and he does well at it, I'm worried about him when the matches come to an end with winter upon us, he also has a hard time with shorter days.... I'll just keep praying...
As for me, been doing well. Enjoyed my 3 day weekend, went shopping with mom today and I was able to give her her birthday gift and I treated her to lunch.
I wanted to chime in on something...they do pick things when they run away. A picture I planned on keeping of him I didn't notice was gone up until he POSTED IT ON FACEBOOK A MONTH AGO.
Took my favorite cook book but swears he doesn't have it, yet the girls see it at his place.
At the same time he leaves all his stupid old colognes and shaving stuff in the cabinet. I still haven't thrown it out because I really don't notice it and it's up high and my arm isn't so good.
Funny thing is I saw in H's wallet a few months back one of my business cards with a message I wrote to him one day a few years ago when he picked up something out of my car. I think it was his phone or his wallet that he left at home and I put one of my cards by it with a love message on it. I had totally forgotten about it until I saw it in his wallet. I thought he must not have realized it was there otherwise he probably would have thrown it out. But now I ammthinkjng maybe he kept it on purpose? Hope OW doesn't see it! Lol!!!
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
hrm, Your weekend sounds like it went rather well. I'm glad that you were able to sit down and watch movies w/him. The Cabin in the Woods is a good one. Kind of reminds me of the Mother Ship and the pod people. The pod people don't realize that they are being manipulated just like the young adults in the movie.
Mlcers have a problem accepting gifts of any sort from family. They need "an explanation" as to why someone would give them something or do an act of kindness towards them. Their guilt makes them this way. They don't understand why we or family members would do this for them when they are acting the way they are. I'm glad you explained to him about the knife and how it came to be tht your mother gave it to you for him.
The days are getting shorter and the weather hasn't been the best the last few days. I wonder what keep him motivated once shooting matches are finished. Maybe he'll continue to hang out at the gym.
I'm glad you had some fun this weekend. You needed it.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
