So this is what's over the rainbow

[~¤DG¤~]

It looks like I might be a little bit late to the party, but I made it and that is all that matters, right?

For those who are not familiar with my sitch, I will give you the cliff notes version of it.

H & I were married June 23 '06 and he left in Feb of '11. He filed D in Oct '11 but couldn't decide if he wanted to go through with it or not.
In Feb of '12 he had me served and our D was final yesterday 8/27.
We don't have any kids together, I have 2 S from a previous M ages 16 & 11. H has a son 8 from a previous R.

So...that's me in a nut shell.
This process has been life changing, that's for sure.

[kml]

Welcome, DG!

So - now that you're here - what are YOUR dreams and ambitions for the future?

[~¤DG¤~]

That is a really good question, and one I don't know if I can fully answer.

The first thing I need to do is try my hardest to pick myself up and move on. I've been seeing a therapist for almost 2 years now and that is helping me, a lot.

All I know is I don't want this to hurt, and I want to be happy.

[Rick1963]

(((DG))) my divorce was final yesterday. I don't think it will hurt for ever just a bit longer. So be strong and keep moving forward. Welcome

[keep_going]

DG -

I have been following your sitch from the get-go. We joined here about the same time, but I don't know if you remember me.

I want to tell you that you should be proud of where you are. If you went back and read your original posts, you would think - wow, was that really me?

Please pat yourself in the back for that.
I have always felt connected to your sitch. I had similar issues with my H (and still do). My hot temper ruined the love and respect he felt for me. But I can see a much more serene and mature person when I read your posts. You know you are not that angry person anymore. I admire that and use that as an inspiration and place to reach. No, I cannot say I am there yet, but thank you for showing me it can be done.

I look forward to reading and keeping up with your goals and dreams for this new phase of your life.

Remember, the sky's the limit!

(((DG)))

[~¤DG¤~]

Wow KG....your post is so inspiring, thank you so much!
There have been so many people here who have touched my life in positive ways, I can't even keep them all straight. It's times like this that I wish we could send PM's to one another, but I understand why they don't.

If you ever want to email me, feel free. I am at luccyvp at yahoo

So does this mean that you and your H are still together? I need to go back and read through your sitch.

[JustStunned]

The sky is not the limit, for I have seen pictures of footprints on the moon
(((DG)))

[keep_going]

DG,

I just wanted to check in on you... I have been really busy the last couple of weeks - lots of relatives visiting from my native country before school starts.

They are all gone and although it was great, it was hectic and exhausting. Now I am trying to get back into a routine.

Thanks for the email address - I will connect with you offline later.

And to answer your Q - H and I are not together. He said he will be filing a month ago. Still have not received anything, but expect to any day now. There is also a new curveball in my sitch, but we'll deal with it as well...
So I have accepted things and am doing much better now than I was last year (thank God...)

How about you???
Keep us posted.

(((DG)))

[~¤DG¤~]

As promised I am checking ih fellow DBers to see how you are all doing.

H and I have been D for almost 2 months now and I am doing just fine. More than fine actually. I haven't had contact with him other than wishing him a happy bday earlier this month via email.

It does get easier. You you may not believe it but it does.