LongRoad Sorry I haven't been around. It sounds like your husband is still a financial mess, and you still resent him for it.
Do you have children? The fact he is still being so irresponsible is very troubling. Now I'm not surprised you treat him the way that you do. I know earlier I told you to cut him so slack, but if he is jeopardizing both your careers, won't fix it, and then runs away because you get on his case for not manning up...well maybe it is a good thing he is leaving.
You should treat him well, but it doesn't mean you have to ignore what he does wrong.
Still here, still status quo. He is back on Facebook now. He went off a while back citing he didn't want his friends getting in the middle of our divorce from reading on FB. It still lists us as married and we are still friends but he has not told me he did this. Not sure what that means.
Our conversations are friendly. He is opening up as he feels ok, but still at a status quo. I guess I am still learning patience but I have stuck toy word on No R talk. I know I am still gone but only until this weekend and then ? I get home late Saturday or early Sunday morning. Really wish I knew how he felt about me coming home, but I bite my tongue and keep my mouth shut. Not sure about sleeping arrangements or anything else as we only have one bed. He can sleep on the couch if he wants, but it hurts his back so I am not sure how long that will last if it goes that direction.
I have been doing a lot of listening lately. Just letting him talk when we do talk and keeping my mouth shut. It's was not easy at first, but I have learned a LOT in at time. This is not a bad thing, just change. When youave been doing something one way your entire life, the transition, while doable, is slow.
Other an that, everything seems to be going ok. I am more an ready to be HOME.
Me- 29 H - 36 T - 5y M - 2y D - 11 months BD#1 June 2013 BD#2 H files 10/28/13 Retrouvaille Nov 13 BD #3 H Files 2nd time 4/22/14 Fires L 7 days later. No court dates set Supposedly he's moving out?
What a freaking roller coaster. My coach advised me to ask if I would be able to get in house, key etc and let him know when I was coming back. I tried. It got awkward. I asked if he was thinking about a hotel. He said no.
I said so...I am asking your thoughts and planning for my return. He said he didn't know. So I said 'So we will just figure it out when I get back?' he said yes. I said ok, and left it at that.
When does the roller coaster of his hot Dane cold (which should not but ends up controlling my emotions) stop? How am I supposed to know what I am going back to?
We spoke last night for a bit and he opened up. We hung up, and not two minutes later he called to tell me about a coyote in the front yard. E were watching the same show and I had sent him a text saying how I missed riding motorcycles in fall weather. He said 'I know, maybe next fall :-( ' (we can't afford one now due to his financial issues.)
I want to take that and run with it, but then his tone about me coming home changes and I get down again. I am going out with friends tonight to take my mind off of things, but I cant help but feel crappy about today after we had such a great talk yesterday, he called me on his own (one of my small goals) and then I get distance today.
I vowed to before positive, so...I am going to stop whining and attribute this to him being on the road a long time today (since 9AM and is still not home) and being tired.
Me- 29 H - 36 T - 5y M - 2y D - 11 months BD#1 June 2013 BD#2 H files 10/28/13 Retrouvaille Nov 13 BD #3 H Files 2nd time 4/22/14 Fires L 7 days later. No court dates set Supposedly he's moving out?
