You detach by leaving. You don't have to say anything.
But if you're going to leave anyway, why not exhaust all the options before leaving? If suggesting that you'd like to have a friend with benefits doesn't work, strike up a friendship with a potential girlfriend, and be open about it. That's not having an affair, though it might be a step to one.
If these steps don't wake up your wife, I don't know what will. If she objects, you can ask, ok, so then you want to work on our relationship? If she doesn't object, well then you can have a girlfriend.
Of course you can always walk away. I could walk away from every relationship at the slightest problem. I have a friend who does that. He's on his 100th relationship or thereabouts. He lost track long ago.
Well Wilt Chamberlain had over 20,000 "relationships".
Nothing much has changed. I've tried to express my feelings to W, but it seems to fall on deaf ears. So it is still very frustrating these days. W seems more interested in everything else, tv, ipohone, facebook, drawsomething, words with friend, etc... except me. When we do have those moments, It still feels like it is her duty, very sterile. No emotion what so every. There is hardly any intimacy, or even hugs and kisses.
I feel that I am working my tail off and not appreciated at all at times.
All that I would like is for w to emotionally/romantically/intimately engage. Is that to much to ask for?
Also W is now chatting with a fellow over in Englandvia the chat in word with Friends. She says it is very innocent. But given her past history with cruising the internet looking for that excitement or hypo manic situations that Bi Polars have, I am figuring not so much. I even asked if there where any sexual innuendo conversation. She didn't deny it, just said that he is in Frickin England.
But I know differently. She had left her FB account up one day and I accidentally found some very juicy conversation. So I know she is not being honest with me. Another Trait of a Bipolar.
Am I over reacting? Should I confront her with what I saw several months ago or should I take the attitude that this to shall pass? When do you say enough is enough.
Plus I don't feel it is my place to out just to find someone just to relieve my sexual desires, like it was suggested in a previous post. I feel that two wrongs don't make a right...
