wow good timing on the trip idea. for her birthday next month, I'm taking her to a bed and breakfast for two days, during which we will be chauffeured on a wine tour of some vineyards. upstate new york.
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
Will she like that? Remember do something she likes...
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
One of my friends gave me a sheet with a couple of rules:
1. Do not try to have sex. 2. Do what she likes 3. I don't remember.
I did it for a while and it made it ALL about her, took alot out of me. Sometimes they are just gone.
It's like the dog chasing his own tail. They think that they are loving you too much and not loving themself, and pull back, and that pull back becomes infinate as they pull away.
With the gap left behind they fill it with the OM/OW. They are right back at square one.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Good man..good. Small steps bro...small steps. Keep your thoughts positive.
Think about any changes you still want to do for you and focus on those!
Good luck and God Bless.
Oh and by the way...I just may be headed down your way the last weekend of this month. Ahh...I love the Garden State
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
just a quick update. W has been to therapist 6 times now; said she's feeling better. acting like her old self again. I love you's and hugs and kisses and being open about everything again. guess she just needed a professional to hear her out and guide her through life's struggles. she's going to keep going, but I'm glad she's back. thank you for all the advice and words of encouragement. you're a great lot.
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
I'm still cautious though. she says therapy is helping. tread lightly......