Must have gotten up to 100 posts, so I've started a new thread.
Hey TVS, the painting is going well. I painted my own house so I am quite experienced and good at it. (Might take it up for a living). Speaking of which I went for a job interview today. It went well too. No guarantees, it will be a process so if I can make it to the next stage i'll be happy. Feel much better about myself in general.
H asked me to go out today to do some shopping. Afterwards he turned into the alien again. Two steps forward, one back.
I'm glad painting went well. I love home improvement stuff too. Sometimes a little thing like painting can make a big difference!
I'm impressed your H actually initiated doing something with you! Was he at least normal while you were shopping? Don't you think sometimes when they're nice/normal is when the alien seems to appear shortly afterwards?
I hope the interview went well. I'm sure you wowed them with your dynamic personality!
Let us know when you hear from them.
H called yesterday afternoon and asked if it was okay if he stayed one more night. He sounded normal on the phone, but I still don't trust him. It will be interesting to see how he is when he gets home today.
Hope E.T. stays away today, and you get to see your H
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
GB, I was getting worried about you. I'm glad you're feeling better about yourself. I like to hear the confidence that you know how to paint and do it well! I wish I could do it. So far I only have a book that tells me how.
Have you read through the thread "DB'ing and MLC, why the label"? It had some thought-provoking stuff on it. Tvs had some comments.
I thought about the alien thing for a long time the other day. I was wondering if, after H & I married and I wanted to get pregnant and I stopped being the attractive, fun girl he married -- maybe he thought I was an alien!
Then when you switch the evening clutch for a diaper bag..... Well....
It's not like they don't get something out of it too when we have kids though. This life crisis (or whatever it is) doesn't seem to have any benefits for us now!
What I don't understand is why these guys don't at least try to work things out instead of withdrawing and going alien on us? What's that about?
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
RH ..I don't know what it is about either.. why can't our H's just be happy? I guess its not really that simple - but it really is that simple!! I know this much, for a long time I was unhappy in my marriage. One reason being that I have spent so much time alone.
I had thought about leaving many times over the years, but kids and limited earning potential always held me back. It was only when H dropped the bomb that I felt differently and panicked about losing him. It is true that we want what we can't have. When I started to think about the effects of losing him and our life together and all that went with it I realised I had very few reasons to be unhappy in my marriage. He is a good man who has always worked hard and been a good provider, never abused me or drank heavily, always loyal. So what was wrong with me all those years. Human nature...the grass has got to be greener on the other side.
I guess they just have to figure it out for themselves. Lets hope they do for all our sakes. In the mean time we just have to get on with things.
It's nice you are able to logically see the past. At the time you were very unhappy, it sure didn't feel good though. Was he not tender or complimentary and you really needed that? Just guessing.
If your H can come around and accept himself and you and a new R, it seems like it would be great!
But you are right....just have to get on with things. Weekends seem the worst for me. At least Saturdays do. I still desire so much to know what my H is doing and I have to get away from that.
I had some periods of intense unhappiness with H in the past too. Like when his MIL was living with us after his sister died. I blamed H for her bad behavior. If we could only change the past.... Sigh. I guess that's the point of now...we can only change our present.
Need some of the lighter side of MLC today.....
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
Tvs, you make me laugh! It's so true about sometimes feeling like a nut....or not!
GB, anything new?
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
Hey MLC sisters...thinking about you guys all day and trying to get here to say hi!! Been out all day with H. Hope you are both well, and staying positive and enjoying GAL'ing. Have to run but will catch up again soon.
TVS..nothing too exciting just out shopping for new clothes for H. We did have fun, and stopped in to the local surf club for a drink afterwards. H is considering taking a job there so wanted to check it out. He did talk about the future a little and it did include me, if I am not mistaken! Had a nice family dinner together later in the evening. He laughed a lot and it was good to see.
H may have expected me to jump into bed with him last night which I didn't, I am going slowly. He seemed angry again this morning and it could be the reason why.
He has also threatened to go back into work on Tuesday and give his boss an ultimatum. I don't believe he needs to do that, but conscientiously look for another job in the meantime. Those decisions are best not made in the heat of the moment when you are any angry MLC'er.
So some good news and some not so good. Will keep you posted. Hope you are going OK.
