Okay, so today I found out that my W has an OM. The way I found out is that she "accidentally" left the receipt from a high end lingerie store sitting on my seat in the car when she came to pick me up to go file some parts for the court. So Know that I now, what do I do?
M 39, W 34 M 15 S 14, S 12, S 9, D 7, D 6 Separated: 7/2/2012 Served: 7/10/2012 Divorced 11/5/2012
I told my pastor that even if she did have an affair, emotional or physical, it would not change how I feel about her, but now that the very real possibility is here I am not sure how I feel.
M 39, W 34 M 15 S 14, S 12, S 9, D 7, D 6 Separated: 7/2/2012 Served: 7/10/2012 Divorced 11/5/2012
I told my pastor that even if she did have an affair, emotional or physical, it would not change how I feel about her, but now that the very real possibility is here I am not sure how I feel.
Only you know if this is a road in which you want to travel. You don't HAVE to either.
It is rather cold that the wife left the reciept for the langerie that you would never see her in in your carseat.
Is that the only "proof" you have? Look, I smell affairs probably as often as anyone on this forum, but a lingerie receipt is not really proof. Certainly not the kind of iron-clad proof you want to hang your hat on.
It could easily be just your wife, wanting to feel more sexy and attractive just for HER (us guys always think it's all about us, but it's not!), or -- more likely, since you said she left it out where you could easily find it -- it COULD be a trap she laid for you. Certainly wouldn't be the first time I've seen that around here.
Is that the only "proof" you have? Look, I smell affairs probably as often as anyone on this forum, but a lingerie receipt is not really proof. Certainly not the kind of iron-clad proof you want to hang your hat on.
It could easily be just your wife, wanting to feel more sexy and attractive just for HER (us guys always think it's all about us, but it's not!), or -- more likely, since you said she left it out where you could easily find it -- it COULD be a trap she laid for you. Certainly wouldn't be the first time I've seen that around here.
Please be extremely careful before you either:
a) confront your wife on this; or
b) make any important decisions based on it
Starsky
"Hey baby, you left your laungere reciept in my car". Keep it light, no reason to interrogate her on this one, it may be nothing.
I buy all my bras at Victoria's Secret because it's hard to find my skinny-but-big-boobs size anywhere else. I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that this is proof of an OM (unless his credit card was on the receipt?).
On the other hand - most of us here eventually found out there WAS an affair, so if your spidey-sense if telling you something, it may be true. I'd just suggest you have better proof than that.
After going for a long walk to clear my head, I have begun to question if there is an OM. Here is what I know objectively. W has been posting profiles on dating websites, she went on a lunch date with a guy last Monday, and she was shopping for lingerie yesterday. Although there being an OM does fit the facts as I have them; I admit that it is not the only possibility or even the only reasonable possibility.
M 39, W 34 M 15 S 14, S 12, S 9, D 7, D 6 Separated: 7/2/2012 Served: 7/10/2012 Divorced 11/5/2012
After going for a long walk to clear my head, I have begun to question if there is an OM. Here is what I know objectively. W has been posting profiles on dating websites, she went on a lunch date with a guy last Monday, and she was shopping for lingerie yesterday. Although there being an OM does fit the facts as I have them; I admit that it is not the only possibility or even the only reasonable possibility.
If wife has been posting on dating sites, you need to accept these facts as she is looking for someone.
