Thank you all for the encouraging words. I went to lunch and did a little shopping today with one of my friends..it started out good, then these thoughts about how my ex and the OP is setting up their house that they just moved into. I started feeling physically sick. I tried to stopthe thoughts, but it seemed the more I tried the more intense it became. I have got to pull myself together I know. I'm also hung up on the fact that this should be the time we as a family we could be enjoying the fruits of our labor. But instead, she and her S are. I cant believe that my ex has thrown me away like a piece of trash. GOD give me strength!!!! This is the hardest thing ive ever gone through. I don't even wish this on the OW. This is pure torture and hell. It seems that my ex is not bothered by any of this at all. All he cares about is making the OW happy. Thanks again for your advise. I appreciate it.
M40 H39 M19+ T20+ S18 S14 S8 S Jun 11 D Jun 12 OW Jul 03 OW Oct 10
Here's a trick that someone told me on this site. (I think it was MrBond). When these thoughts start entering your mind, just visualize a STOP sign and then replace the thought with something pleasant. I conjure up an image of my D8 with her beautiful smile and that usually does it. For those moments when I just can't shake it, I meditate. It's something I started 3 months ago when I got the bomb and it's been helping me in all sorts of ways. See if there are meditation classes in your area, it's another way to GAL and eet people as well.
Take care and be strong,
Arsene
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
