Our 10th anniv was back in April. It was then that she started to think about whether or not she still loved me and wanted to be with me. I noticed about a week after that she added a "new friend" to her FB acct. a guy she used to work with a long time ago.
Fast forward to last month when she dropped the bomb on me. I have asked her several times if there was someone else and she has denied any type of affair. She has in fact told me she "will probably be single for the rest if my life"
I am not sure what to believe. I am 50/50 on it. It seems like in a lot of similar situations here there is some sort of affair going on. It's part of the reason I think she wants a DIY divorce. She knows what is on the line if we divorce because of an affair.
How should I handle this? Continue to ask her? Hire a PI? If she is having an affair I feel like it would be a deal breaker for me
We have always said in the 10 years we have been married that as long as there is no: 1. Cheating 2. Abuse 3. Drugs
That we would always be able to work things out. I am confused because none of those things have happened. The only one I am not 100 percent on is if she is having some sort of affair
Hey joey, it's best if you stick with one thread, no one will be able to follow you and your posts will fall way to the back pages. Keep posting on the same thread, updating often, that keep your thread on the first couple of pages.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
If she is having an affair I feel like it would be a deal breaker for me
Hey Joey,
Bug is right. One thread will make it easier for us to follow along.
Anyhow, it sounds to me like an affair "might" be a deal breaker. You don't sound so sure about that. If it is, I can completely respect that.
Perhaps you should wrap your mind on what you want to do whether there is one and if there isn't one. IOW, prepare yourself.
A big part of DB'ing is getting yourself to a healthy place, so your life will be great despite the outcome of your sitch.
When just one person changes, the dynamics of the relationship also change.
I'm sure your longer post will help us help you.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
