I have not been on here in quite a long time. I had decided to use the last resort method and nearly immediately things began to change. Within a month W told me she needed to talk to me about something. I went to her place in the morning after working a graveyard shift and she told me she wanted us to try to work things out. She then said that she didn't believe that we could do that without living together, and she asked me to move in with her. She told me that she knew that her family may not like her decision, but that since I had started leaving her alone, she had been thinking about everything. She said she will stand up for me, and that she is not going to bring up what happened intentionally. I did not speak, but only listened to everything she had to say. She asked if I wanted to try, and we have been together again for two months now. So far we are very happy. We do not argue, but instead talk things out before they become arguments. We were honest about what we both felt like we were missing before all of this, and we agreed that we were heading towards a separation regardless of the A, and now we are both taking care and making the effort to do the things for each other that we were not doing before. She asked me recently if I was happy. I told her I have never been happier, but that I feel like I don't deserve for her to make me this happy. She assured me that she is happy too, although she has moments where she deals wit what happened. I am a very lucky man to be where I am and I know it.
M-36. W-27 S-2 W moved out, filed for D after my A. I'm DBing the best I can! Learning every day, praying and hoping.
Congrats! Happy to hear of one that has been busted.
I would view this as the starting point though, not the end goal. If there's anything I've learned in the last year, it's that a happy marriage takes a friggin lot of work!
Me: 36 Her: 35 Together 7/09 Married 8/7/10 Separate rooms since at least April 11 "I've decided I want a divorce" 12/5/11 She moves out of state/files 2/7/12 Dissolution final 5/12
We have not gone to C. We have been very honest with each other about what we feel was driving us apart. We are both working on those things and have been very happy. It's likely that eventually we will go to C. Right now neither of us want to as long as we are understanding what each other wants and expects and doing those things and being truly happy together. For sure though not a day goes by that I don't feel like I am undeserving of this.
M-36. W-27 S-2 W moved out, filed for D after my A. I'm DBing the best I can! Learning every day, praying and hoping.
