So glad I found this site. I wanted to share my situation. I feel like everything is falling apart.
To begin--I have ordered "The Divorce Remedy" it is supposed to be in tomorrow.
This coming Wed, it will be 1 month since my wife dropped the bomb on me. We were actually on vacation with the kids. I sort of egged it on. I had gotten a VM on my cell about a job interview. So when I called back, I went into her purse to look for a pen and some paper to write on. Thats when I found her appt card for seeing a therapist. Don't get that wrong--there had never been ANY issue with me going into her purse. I kept things in there as well when we would go out.
So later that night I asked her about it. Why she was going, how long she had been going, etc. She said that since our 10th anniv.(this last april) that she feels like she doesn't love me anymore, we'll never be happy again, and she wants a divorce.
Ughhhhh.
Of course I went into all the normal emotions. Anger, defensiveness, betrayal, the works.
She said I was controlling, selfish, and she walked on eggshells afraid I would get upset over anything.
She is right about some of those things--just not as bad as I think she is making it out to be. We both have our faults.
We have a 5 year old. And things have went down hill since he was born. She had some issues with his birth and our sex life practically died.
I am not sure if she is having some sort of affair. I am 50/50 on that and not sure what to think. I have asked her and she says no.
Since finding this site, I am trying not to push. I am trying to give her space.
She wants a "quicky" easy DIY divorce. No mess. She wants us to do our own settlement and just have a law office type up the paperwork and file.
I dont want a divorce. I love her. I love our family and I hate to think what this is going to do to our son.
She is not willing to try any sort of counseling. She says I can't change. She also thinks I have been suffering from depression the last several years. She herself went through about a years worth of post-pardom(sp?) depression after our son was born.
I plan to read the book as soon as it gets in tomorrow but this is driving me crazy. It is very hard for me to stay calm. Today she isn't wearing her rings---
