Not Just an Ordinary Day #36

[kat727]

When I got home I found an interesting card. My boss had mailed me a thank you card telling me how much he appreciated me! Go figure. This week, I will get my appraisal and raise. Maybe he thinks I am doing better than I do?

We shall see.

[kat727]

Oh, forgot to mention that this weekend, d13 and I were watching this show where a counselor was helping a family voice their issues with their blended family. D13 looked at me and said we need that with Dad. I asked her if she didn't feel that she could talk to him. She said she could but he never really hears her. I said that maybe she should write him a letter. Again she didn't think that would work.

She went on FB and wrote a short letter basically to her Dad. She said she didn't understand how her dad could leave her to raise someone else's kids. She mentioned plastering a smile on her face so her true feelings wouldn't show. Honestly, it was heart wrenching to read. His response? "thanks, keep talking to me. ". Seriously, a smilie face at the end. He is still in his fog and an idiot when it comes to his own kids.

kat

[SunFunOne]

First - congrats on the card from your boss. Sounds like your review will go well. Fingers crossed.

Your daughter sounds awesome. It is important for her to voice her feelings and although she knows she can with you - you were right to direct her to communicate to her dad as well. But he doesn't WANT to get it. He may never get it. I believe that some of the guys (like mine) will never admit to what they've done. Sad but true. And their R with their kids will never be the same.

Ya dun good!

Barb

[kat727]

She will be mad at me because I called her 13! Lol. My sweetie is an awesome 14 now. Of course it has only been since the 15th, so she might forgive me. Lol

I just feel so bad for all of them. Of course right now she is more emotional and like me wears her heart on her sleeve. Yes, I am proud of her for trying.

Thanks Barb, I keep on trying. Kat

[mishka422]

Yep, sounds like your boss actually sees how hard you work! BRAVO! Those kind of thanks are few and far between.

Your D14 sounds like an amazing young lady and she is that way because she has a mom who is open with her and guides her to make good choices and be true to herself. That is the best gift any parent can give. Her dad is missing out on all of the wonderful gifts her could have had from raising his kids. Unfortunately, your kids pay the price for it. Hopefully, someday, he will wake up and realize how badly he has hurt his children but until then....keep being their rock!

[kat727]

Had fun last night at the girl's band and orchestra concert. Got to catch up with former mother in law. Ex and I get along and whisper comments back and forth throughout. Girls insist on Baskin Robbins ice cream and ex pays . Then home to Hot in Cleveland, cant beat that!!

kat

[whatisis]

Sounds like as wonderful a night as you can have in that situation. It's so much better all round when we can deal with the ex in a mature fashion. That said, I know it's not possible in all cases!

[kat727]

Ok, so my review was just meeting expectations but I am such a wonderful person with a heart of gold! WT??? I was not thrilled with some of the comments but that I am a wonderful person is supposed to ice over what other issues I have? Ughhhhhh.

One of my dearest friends asked me if I was interesting in being a paralegal. I said possibly. She was going to get more details for me. Maybe there is hope, we will see.

kat

[mishka422]

How annoying! Of course, most employers rate everyone as "meets expectations" unless they are doing very poorly. A lot of them don't give anyone and "exceeds" because then they feel that the employee won't strive to better themselves if they think they are already doing everything right. It's a mind game.

[MichelleLT]

Mish is right, they like to put everyone as meets expectations so people don't get complacent. Still disappointing I'm sure though.

Keep your options open!