Marrage's Days look numbered

[NotGivingUp!]

My W is currently "off of the grid" for me until Monday @ 5pm. At this time, I am anticipating my W to come back requesting the Big D. After requesting the Big D in May, we have tried both individual and couples counseling with little luck. We currently have no more sessions scheduled. We were supposed to be on vacation this week which, due to the circumstances, we cancelled. W still took the time off of work to “process our situation” in which I was instructed to not contact her. I have not. This has been extremely difficult for me. Aside from contacting me to give me my new vehicle insurance card, I have not heard from W at all. I am prepared to begin LRT after we talk next week depending on what W has to say. This does not look promising for our marriage at all. I want to call her to see about dinner so badly, but cannot. Struggling here!

Forum will not allow me to create a signature. I enter 1 character to be told that my signature is too long. Thoughts?

Me-38
W-39
M-9yrs, 2mos/T-15yrs
Blowup- 4/16/12
Bomb- 5/11/12
No kids, 1 pet

[Cadet]

Well I don't know if the above is part of your post or your
signature.

You may need a certain amount of posts to create a signature.

Have you read the DR book?

LRT sounds like a good idea.

Post some more.

[BklynMom]

what are the issues??

[NotGivingUp!]

Had to put in post.

Yes, have read the DR book...parts of it multiple times. This came out of the blue. We have had our issues for a while, but never saw the Big D request coming. Now, per W, it seems like there is no time period. We have done some counseling, both individual and joint. Our "controled separation contract expired today...with no new one to replace. We were to be comint back from the Dominican Republic tomorrow...due to our recent turn of events, we canxd the trip. W still took the time off to "process" in which I was not to contact her. Have not. Heard from her Tuesday morning to provide me with our new vehicle insurance card. Have not heard from her since.

[peringo]

I would use monday to get all your financial stuff organized, consult an attormey, take photos of all property, You being prepared might get her to really think what might happen if she pursues divorce... if she brings it up.

[NotGivingUp!]

Communication channels began to break down years ago. Living apart after W relocated for work while I stayed behind to sell our home added to the comm channel breakdown. Have felt unwanted, unloved, and like a 2nd class citizen in my marriage for sometime. Ironically enough, we both seem to have very similar complaints. However; I want to work the issues out where W just wants out. I have been going since Apr 16, 2012 without W knowing if she was willing to work on our marriage. May 11/12, W asked for the Big D. We began both couples and individual counseling that weekend. W has put little into the counseling...which was originally her idea. Am rapidly loosing hope. I am not ready to give up on our marriage, but the longer I go with ZERO indication of reconciliation, the harder it becomes to keep holding on to hope. Am prepared to begin LRT next week.

[NotGivingUp!]

W contacted me today, wanting to talk. She suggested dinner…then that we meet for dinner. I knew then that the Big D was coming. Sure enough, after dinner, W dropped the request for the Big D again. I resorted to the LRT. We chatted for a bit as for separating our estate. W wants to “share” a lawyer. I don’t know if I am comfortable with sharing a lawyer…thoughts? We chatted a bit more, and then I chose to leave. Does not look promising at all.