AS – The words of encouragement are appreciated, I feel I did do a good job validating her feelings and not pushing for more. As for what you and sandi2 said I understand to not take this as a sign from her that things are better. OTH I know my wife better than anyone, she’s not one to break down in front of anyone, so for her to feel comfortable enough to do this with me is a step. She could have removed herself and not had me present. As for her setting the pace this is not only obvious but she has stated that any progress will be on her timeline.
Control is an issue here. She has never been controlling of me per say, though she does having controlling tendencies. During her emotional moment this past weekend she admitted she had no control over the situation with her mom and her bff. This ways heavy on her because if not for W both of these people probably would not still be with us. W was very active when both were diagnosed and researched and push them to get the very best treatment available. MIL and Bff have both decided at this point to live their lives for quality verses quantity. I know this is W issue that she needs to deal with that she can’t control another person.
Being in the same house during all of this is tough. There’s no time to miss me. There is no way to see if this vision she has in her head about being happy if I wasn’t in the picture is true or just that a vision of the grass being greener. I am thankful that I still get to be with my kids every day, if the only thing to come from this sitch is a better relationship with my 3 kids and a better me, then I concider myself blessed.
Another MC appt today, shes still willing, even seemed to be looking forward to it.Thats a big step from just 2 months ago!
